My girlfriend (F25) thinks that I (M26) cheated on her because I said a celebrity is attractive. What the?

A Reddit user shared their baffling experience after being accused of cheating by their girlfriend. The situation began when she asked him to name a celebrity he found attractive.

When he mentioned Sophie Turner, she claimed the celebrity resembled a girl from his past who had falsely accused him of infidelity. This escalated into an argument where his girlfriend insisted his defensiveness proved her point, leaving him frustrated and confused. Read the full story below to see how it unfolded.

‘ My girlfriend (F25) thinks that I (M26) cheated on her because I said a celebrity is attractive. What the?’

This is not a joke. My girlfriend is a massive over thinker and has anxiety. Earlier today my girlfriend asked me to name a celebrity that I thought was attractive. I kept telling her no, I can’t think of one. But she kept pushing it and so I just said the first one that came to mind, Sophie Turner.

And my girlfriend looked her up and saw what she looked like. Then she said that she “looks similar” to a girl that I knew years ago. Some backstory, this girl had it out for me for some reason and lied to my girlfriend that I cheated on her with her. Even though that never happened and there’s no proof of it.

But I digress, and because they look similar, that proves I cheated on her. Mind you, this is YEARS apart from that incident, and somehow that was her immediate reaction. When I started to tell her that’s absolutely absurd, she then asked me why I was getting defensive, and that me being defensive over it further proves it.

Uh yeah, of course I’m getting defensive. I’m getting accused of cheating because a CELEBRITY that I find attractive looks similar to that girl. She eventually calmed down, but refuses to see that this was a complete overreaction, and told me she hopes that I learned from the conversation we had. What did I learn? I didn’t even do anything. All that I learned was to not answer a question or bring anything up like that because it was clearly a trap.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

NearbyArtichoke9883 −  My ex asked what I first thought when I saw her. I said I thought you were a runway model. She said “so does that mean you want to f**k every runway model out there”. Exhausting to say the least brother

TangerineSol −  I think you may have a long road ahead of you.

lookthepenguins −  She eventually calmed down, but refuses to see that this was a complete overreaction, and told me she hopes that I learned from the conversation we had. What did I learn? I hope you learned that she’s delulu and needs a hecka LOT OF therapy. Omg how exhausting – is she like 5 yrs old or something?

Scared_Connection695 −  Stop tolerating this behavior. You told her no already. So don’t participate in any more discussion on the topic. If she cries, throws a tantrum or yells, oh well. Walk away. You are not responsible for her emotions in this instance.

Rough-Discourse −  Look up “Kafka Trapping”. In the book, the Trial, by Kafka, the protagonist is, as the title suggests, on trial for something but doesn’t know what it is. When he becomes defensive about being innocent, it gets turned around on him

“Only a guilty party would behave in such a manner”. Point being: this is not a fight you can win because you’re already guilty in her mind. She accused you, you reacted, your reaction is further proof of your guilt. One word of advise that bears repeating: disengage, disengage, disengage

Do not try and prove your innocence or soothe her insecurities. Let her believe whatever the hell she wants to believe. “Sounds like your mind is made up.” And just leave it at that. This person will drain you if you let them. “A strange game; the only winning move is not to play”

WhatiworetodayinNY −  My husband and I both decided that we like certain celebrities and decided we have a “hall pass”with them jokingly. We both laughed and agreed because nobody deals with this in life. Normal people don’t react like this. She sounds like she will do this with anyone. Get out of there!

Sourkarate −  You learned how insecurity and irrationality manifests in her.

NearbyArtichoke9883 −  Insecure people are always a hassle to deal with

Boldestpete −  Oh, I think you learned plenty from the conversation!  She’s got some REAL insecurity issues and wow, that’s not anything out of the ordinary, she refuses to acknowledge them, and therefore there is no Way it’s gonna get any better anytime soon.

I hope for your sake, you don’t plate this behavior of hers. Don’t cater to it and don’t filter yourself out of fear. You are in for a hell of a nightmare if you let her dictate what you’re allowed to say or not say based on her irrational fears. 

Glittering-Grape6028 −  She just wanted to fight and she pushed until you accepted the invitation

Do you think the girlfriend’s reaction was an overreach due to her anxiety, or was the boyfriend’s defensiveness part of the issue? How would you handle a situation where insecurity and miscommunication clash in a relationship? Share your thoughts and let us know how you’d navigate this tricky dynamic!