My (f29) best friend (f29) tried to sabotage my marriage and I don’t know why?

A woman shares how her best friend, Sarah, whom she has known since childhood, recently tried to sabotage her marriage by falsely accusing her husband of cheating. Sarah claimed to have seen the woman’s husband kissing another woman while their son was with him, but the woman quickly proved the accusation was a lie.

Sarah then blocked everyone, leaving the woman heartbroken and confused about why her friend would do such a thing. The situation has left her questioning everything, especially the motives behind Sarah’s actions

‘ My (f29) best friend (f29) tried to sabotage my marriage and I don’t know why?’

I’ve known my best friend Sarah since I was 11. We’ve been through everything together, but recently, she did something that’s left me questioning everything. A few days ago, she told me that she saw my husband kissing another woman in his car while our son was with him.

She said it happened on Wednesday, during a red weather alert. But I knew that wasn’t true—my husband and I were both home that day, with our son. I confronted her, and after some back and forth, she admitted she was lying and claimed she got confused about the days.

But why would she do that? I checked everything—my husband’s phone, his car, everything—and found nothing. He denied cheating, and I believe him 100%. Still, I can’t get over what Sarah did. She’s never explained why she lied, and now she’s blocking everyone, including me.

I’ve been there for her through thick and thin, and now I feel betrayed by someone I considered family. Everyone around us is just as confused as I am. I never thought she’d go this far. Could it be a crush? Or something deeper? I don’t know, but I’m heartbroken.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Wise_woman_1 −  1. She wants you to be single so you’re free to hang out with her. 2. She wants your husband to be free (why though?). 3. She wanted to stir up drama. 4. She was mistaken Regardless of her reason, she’s not a good friend and you’re right to distance yourself from her.

Prize-Bumblebee-2192 −  She’s jealous of your husband. Not you. She wants to have you to herself.

blueavole −  Is Sarah having a mental breakdown? It would be very strange if she was previously a good friend and then suddenly starts sabotaging your relationship. Not you, but someone else should take her for a mental health check.

MielikkisChosen −  second breakfast. Hobbit confirmed.

HandBananasRevenge −  Perhaps the feeling regarding your husband is mutual and she was trying to drive him away.  Is she single?  Did she go through a breakup or something along those lines recently?

Sometimes when that happens to people, they try to make their friends single so they don’t feel bad/jealous.  It’s awful, but it happens. You need to cut this person from your life. 

LilRedRidingHood72 −  OP, first, hug your husband and appreciate him. Not many men would tolerate the crazy YOU showed by searching the house, his phone, emails, etc, when you knew damn well he was home with you during that time frame and that she was lying.

You owe him an apology. (you know you do) As for Sarah, God only knows….it could be any number of things. Jealousy, a crush on either one of you, a misery loves company, and the list goes on. She is going to be too embarrassed to actually talk to you, at least for now.

Distance yourself and let her be. There is something going on, and I don’t know that you want to get caught up in it again. She has already tried to break up your marriage once and had you searching your house like a crazy woman. It’s not a good idea to get tangled up with that twice.

Lost-friend-ship −  What is Sarah’s living situation? You don’t tell us if she is married, lives with a partner, went through a breakup, has kids, what she does for work, etc? How often do you hang out?

I’m assuming she is single as you called her mom and not her partner but telling us a little more about her life might shed some light on why she’s acting so batshit crazy. Can you think back whether she’s ever said anything negative about your husband before?

Have you spoken to your sister in law about this? What does she think? Maybe the two of you should pay Sarah a visit. Perhaps going without your husband might make her more willing to tell you why she’s making s**t up about him.

And maybe she had a brain tumor? This is so strange I honestly don’t know without hearing a bit more about her life. 

lexi_prop −  If everyone agrees this is out of the ordinary for her, there may be a serious medical condition she’s unaware of. It seems like she’s convinced of what she saw, and if so, she needs to get medically evaluated ASAP.

If you’re in contact with her family, please let them know you are concerned for her well being and encourage them to have her see a Dr.

Merrik4t −  Please consider than Sarah may be having a mental health crisis. If this is 100% out of left field and she tried to tell you she was “sick”, I wonder if that’s what she meant. I hope it’s that vs her betraying you so badly. 

ArmyPatate −  There is always a reason. And a motivation to act. As we don’t know her & your relationship it’s difficult to say so the common imaginable answers fill that void : maybe pathologic jealousy, or pathologic lying, a mental breakdown,

maybe a crush on your husband or on you, or a cheating story even, a controlling behavior at your expense and an attempt to isolate you, or wants to set you up with someone she knows.

Why would a best friend go to such lengths to create turmoil in someone’s life? Could this be a misunderstanding, jealousy, or something deeper? How would you process and address this betrayal? Share your thoughts below.