My boyfriend is very cheap and eats a lot more than me. He’s always eating my meals and I am starting to hate eating with him on restaurants.

A Reddit user shared her frustrations about a relationship where her boyfriend’s stingy and inconsiderate behavior became unbearable. From eating her meals without asking to taking advantage of her financially, she finally decided to take action. Read her story below to find out how she handled the situation.

‘ My boyfriend is very cheap and eats a lot more than me. He’s always eating my meals and I am starting to hate eating with him on restaurants.’

My bf and me have been dating for 7 months and for special days and parties we had dinner or ordered on McDonald’s, Taco Bell… Fast food. All of these times he took food from my meals without asking. And if he offers food is once and very little portions, while he takes food from my plate like the whole time.

He rarely pays for special occasions and when I pay his meals he takes the most expensive meal (XL portions), even like this, he keeps taking food from my meal every time. For Christmas we had dinner on an Italian restaurant and he ordered raviollies with 4 cheese sauce and carbonara pizza. The pizza was so big and he only shared half of a piece.

I orderer a kind of meat pie with salad and he literally ate half of my meat pie and all of the olives from the salad without asking me. When the waiter brought our desserts, I went to the bathroom for a moment and you know what? When I came I found that he was “tasting” my coffee ice cream. And he didn’t let me taste his dessert because “he was so hungry”.

He didn’t pay for his meal, I payed for everything because he suddenly forgot his credit card in home… He said he would give me the money later and I am still waiting for the money. He wonders why I am so tiny and why he is chubby… I am thinking about d**p him because I think he’s laughing at my face and he’s a money digger. Should I talk to him or just d**p him? He ended with my patience.. Not only about the food.

In addition I must say that he didn’t get me anything for Christmas excusing himself with “I don’t have enough money”, I bought him a computer keyboard with neon lights as he wanted and he has not even been able to write a romantic letter wishing me merry Christmas. Nothing.

Update: I dumped him via chat. I don’t want to waste more money on someone who doesn’t care for me. I appreciate all of your comments and advice. I already talked to him about this and all of his replies were excuses about not having money and saving money for a console while he was taking advantage of me… This is over. Thank you all. If I knew before, the first time I wouldn’t dated him.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

[Reddit User] −  This guy is taking advantage of you. It’s easy to downplay because “it’s just food” but I think this behavior signifies more: he is happy to have you suffer if it means he saves money. He is selfish and this kind of behavior is deal breaker to me.

whatsername3141 −  He’s a selfish user. D**p him and then take yourself out to eat.

jasudt −  If he’s constantly eating your food and it’s upsetting you this much, I’d d**p him. I dated someone who was like this for a couple of weeks, it got to the point where I would ask for separate checks and left them to pay on their own. He got mad at me for ‘being inconsiderate’ and was dumped on the spot.. You deserve better.

LittleOne281991 −  Are you dating my ex? He would always be spending money on food, we needed to either go out to eat or buy all the ingredients for a meal EVERY SINGLE DAY. Then he would eat 90% of it and leave me with the bill.

If we went out we needed appetizers, the main course and dessert, and I would have pick the cheapest items (and suggest sharing the app and dessert which worked about 70% of the time) but he always ordered something expensive as “it’s been so long since I’ve had steak/seafood/some other expensive s**t”

If we cooked at home I couldn’t be the cook he had to do it. He would cook up all the food at once, eat as much as possible, then either leave it out to go bad or munch on it later. One time I bought a pack of 6 chicken thighs and he cooked ALL OF THEM for ONE MEAL, then ate 5 of them as I couldn’t eat more than one and planned to leave the rest of my half for later.

Nope, he had to eat it. He always used the excuse that his family grew up on large meals and big portions yet then would complain about being obese. Your partner is controlling you through food. He is financially controlling you as you likely pay for the restaurant meals then he is controlling how much you eat by taking away parts of your meals (by eating them himself). It’s a lesser known abusive and manipulative situation.

ottoneurseolo −  I went to the bathroom for a moment and you know what? When I came I found that he was “tasting” my coffee ice cream. And he didn’t let me taste his dessert because “he was so hungry”. Someone picking on my food would be a deal breaker for me.

He rarely pays for special occasions and when I pay his meals he takes the most expensive meal (XL portions), even like this, he keeps taking food from my meal every time. He is taking advantage of you paying for his food. I am thinking about d**p him because I think he’s laughing at my face and he’s a money digger.. Then d**p him.

[Reddit User] −  My food is my food and that is how you get a fork stabbed in your hand.

DeathParade_ −  Just ask what’s going and tell him how you feel, he may not notice that he’s being selfish. However, this a big red flag and it’s up to you whether or not you want to continue this relationship.

gratscot −  – broke. – fat. – selfish. – inconsiderate. – cheap. What do you see in him?

lauraschofie −  This is a huge red flag. Starting with something minor like this and being selfish is a pretty good indicator that you are going to end up getting the short end of the stick on much bigger issues. Someone who truly loves you will want to make your life easier….they want to see the happiness on your face when they do little things that they’ve noticed you like. I doubt you will ever have this here.

EddieRyanDC −  This seems to have some basic solutions. You seem to be very wishy-washy on food boundaries. Obviously, he isn’t taking the hints, so draw a clear line: no more food sharing. Ever. Call him out the moment he does it. No more “tasting”. No more splitting things. He can’t handle it. Like training a dog he needs consistency and a distinct rule to follow.

Stop buying his food. Starting immediately he pays for his own food because you feel taken advantage of. Again, most people would be fine and considerate sharing the check. He is not most people. See if living within these boundaries is possible and preserves what is good in the relationship.

Do you think the Reddit user was justified in ending the relationship, or should she have given him another chance to change? How would you address such behavior in a partner? Share your opinions and stories in the comments below!