My boyfriend (27M) has been treating me (23F) differently since he got his ancestry DNA results back…

A 23-year-old woman is noticing strange behavior from her boyfriend, aged 27, after he received his ancestry DNA results. While initially excited about discovering a royal lineage, his newfound obsession with his ancestry seems to be affecting their relationship in unsettling ways.

His recent actions—quitting his job without discussion, changing their intimacy habits, and distancing himself from her in public—are leaving her confused and questioning their future together. Read the full story below.

‘ My boyfriend (27M) has been treating me (23F) differently since he got his ancestry DNA results back…’

A few weeks ago, my (23F) boyfriend (27M) got his results back from one of those ancestry tests. He’s never been interested in his family history before but one of his friends bought him the kit for his birthday.

A few days after seeing his results (which were nothing special, about 95 percent European and mostly just from England, where we live) he really excitedly told me that he’d been messaged by a group of people about a shared relative. Apparently all of them have an ancestor in common (my boyfriend’s great (x 10) grandfather that can be linked to royal lineage.

I was pleased and a bit amused that my boyfriend was so happy, especially since he seemed to be telling every single person he knows and he posted on facebook about it. However since then I’ve noticed some uncomfortable behaviours from him that is making me second guess our relationship.

1. He quit his job two weeks ago (accountant) which was very unexpected and something we hadn’t discussed before now. He gets defensive when I try to bring it up and ask if there was something in particular that triggered it. He has only said that he doesn’t believe the 9-5 life is right for him.

2. He has suddenly started insisted on using condoms when we have s**. We have been together three years and my birth control (the copper coil) has never been an issue for him before.

My boyfriend has started saying it is not good enough as a form of contraceptive by itself, which would be fine, except he has started making a few comments alongside this about how I’m trying to ‘steal his genes’ and implying that I want his bloodline.

3. He won’t kiss me in public anymore or touch me at all around his family, which he has explained by saying he doesn’t like PDA anymore and it’s embarrassing. He is fine touching me when we’re alone however.

4. He has asked me to look into my family history by making a family tree to go alongside his. It’s not something I care about or want to pursue (my family are also immigrants so I imagine harder to track than his) but since I refused he has made jokes that I must be scared to find out that my family ‘don’t match up’ to his.

As a sidenote, by traditional standards my family are a lot better off and more ‘middle class’ than his although this has never affected our relationship.
We’ve generally had a really good relationship before now and there have never been any major communication issues or anything like that. I’m really confused as to what’s going through his mind right now and I could use some advice.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

cheezbrod −  Is he stupid?

IsThisIt-1983 −  He sounds deluded, does his royal highness have a history of mental illness? He will be rocking up with a few corgis before long. Edit: thanks for the gold and sliver

Milred92 −  I think the best way to respond to this stupidity is with stupidity. Order a title online. They are all over the internet and cost about £20 for a piece of land in Scotland.

Once you receive it, tell him his distant lineage isn’t good enough for your ladyship and everything needs to go back to normal. In all seriousness if your not trolling, he might need help with a manic episode. A sudden onset of erratic behaviour probably isn’t a normal sign.

lolzveryfunny −  Wtf year is this? Is he expecting a title and estate to be granted his way too? Maybe that’s why the condoms. Don’t want to pay child support when you are a Duke or something. Sounds a bit childish for a 27 year old.

ShebanotDoge −  Idk, but my first thought was that he found out you were related.

Cookyy2k −  Sounds like this info might have triggered some sort of manic episode or similar. No one leaves a well paid professional job on a whim without something else going on. I’d get him to talk to a therapist about this new identity he seems to have picked up.

la9411 −  Lol there are thousands of people in the UK who have royal lineage and I hate to say this but it’s most likely from a b**tard lineage. He needs to get off his high horse. He can’t have been that royal that he didn’t know about his ancestry until he did a dna kit. I doubt he’s inheriting castles anytime soon.

[Reddit User] −  Not to rain on his Coronation Day, but it is really *not* something to brag about. Royals are inbred af, and his precious “genes” you’ve been accused of stealing have high probability of being inferior to yours, biologically speaking. If in your shoes I would allow that knowledge to flow into his life soon, as it will surely knock him off that high horse.

It doesn’t have to come from you, just someone/somewhere..similarly, I have an ex that told me he was related to some royal family. I think he revealed it to impress me, but it only made me concerned about mutations in our future offspring. Best of luck

rapidla01 −  Correct solution would be to take a DNA test, claim you’re a direct descendent from Ragnar Lothbrok or something, then loot his flat and leave. Or, you know, tell him how you feel and talk it out, whatever seems right.

FlortationDevice −  Sounds like a royal pain in the ass.

It’s clear that something has shifted in this relationship, and his recent behavior is raising red flags. While it’s natural for people to get excited about new discoveries, it’s concerning when it starts affecting personal relationships in negative ways.

Do you think his recent behaviors reflect a deeper issue with his newfound identity, or could it be something else entirely? How would you approach this situation to understand his mindset without losing yourself in the process? Share your thoughts below.