My BF (38m) kicked me (38f)out of his house last night, for not wanting to be intimate. I don’t know how to handle this moving forward?
A woman shares a painful and confusing experience after her boyfriend kicked her out for not wanting to be intimate following a New Year’s Eve party. Now, she’s left wondering how to move forward in a relationship that feels increasingly strained.
‘ My BF (38m) kicked me (38f)out of his house last night, for not wanting to be intimate. I don’t know how to handle this moving forward?’
Last night I went to a NYE party with my bf. We’ve been on and off for 2 years and recently got back together officially in September. I am not by any means a drinker. I could get drunk off a glass of wine. This week in general has been tense for the both of us and we haven’t really been seeing eye to eye. I work a lot so sometimes I’m very tired and not in the mood for s**. ( we don’t live together ). I will go to his house after work sometimes.
So the other night this was the issue and last night I declined s** again, we got home from the party after 2am and I was a little drunk . Like I said I don’t really drink , so I laid in the bed ( clothes on ) and just closed my eyes. He immediately began taking lingerie out and said put this on. I was barely awake. I said no. Let me just lay down for a min. Then he started yelling at me to change into my pajamas.
Again I said I will. Just give me a minute I need to rest. He then got pissed at me. And said I was being cold and as usual don’t want to hav* s**. “ if your just going to sleep , get out “. I was shocked. I said excuse me. I can’t rest ? It’s late I’m tired. “ you had the whole day to rest “. I got up and left. Although I shouldn’t have been driving. And he didn’t text me or call me or anything. I could be dead right now and he clearly doesn’t even care. I’ve been thinking about this all morning
These are the responses from Reddit users:
cantfindausernameffs − “Been together on and off for two years” – this is pretty telling. If you’ve broken up before there was probably good reason for it, just like there is now.
Carsenaavery − Your worried about receiving a message ? He’d be blocked & id be thanking my lucky stars for leaving that in 2024… stop thinking this is ohkay behavior in someone.
utter-ridiculousness − Don’t drink and drive. Jesus.
The_bookworm65 − Next time please call an Uber. This could have been so much worse. Someone could have died and you could be in jail. Glad you know the relationship is over.
wytchinghours − He kicked you out so be out of his life forever! Move on.
AnonymousPopotamus − You should not be in a relationship with this guy. His priorities are out of whack if he’s making you drive home i**oxicated. But also, you may want to figure out how to get a better work-life balance so that you have the energy to do enjoyable things like be intimate with your partner.
GIFelf420 − I’d never talk to him again. He put you in danger.
KVeigh − I have a question for you to consider: why would you want to be with a man who wants to hav* s** with an unwilling participant?
DeviantImmortal − You’ve been on and off for 2 years.. just let the relationship die and move on. No need to continue this.
Apprehensive-Bear373 − Ur ’boyfriend’ has the mindset of a 16yr, d**p him clearly he has some growing to do.
Relationships should be built on mutual respect, understanding, and care, especially during moments of vulnerability. When personal boundaries are dismissed or emotional safety is compromised, it raises important questions about trust and compatibility. How would you approach a situation like this? Was she justified in walking away, and what steps should she consider next? Share your insights below.