My (35M) SO (37F) is a Reddit troll and I absolutely dumbfounded on what to do?

A Reddit user shared their shock and confusion upon discovering that their partner of several years has a long-standing history as a Reddit troll. The user found hateful, bullying comments, fabricated stories.

And troubling behavior that doesn’t align with the person they thought they knew. Now, they’re struggling with how to confront their partner and what steps to take next. Read the original story below:

‘ My (35M) SO (37F) is a Reddit troll and I absolutely dumbfounded on what to do?’

I came home from work today and noticed my partner just sitting at the desk laughing to herself with her headphones on, so I assumed she was watching a movie or something and left it at that.

Not long after I poked my head round as I was going to ask her what she wanted for dinner and to my surprise she was on Reddit, which was odd to me because she is anti social media etc but I thought it was nice she was trying something as she suffers from agoraphobia and doesn’t get out much without me.

I briefly got a glimpse at her name and thought it would be interesting to see what she had posted (yes I know this was an i**asion of privacy) and to my shock, the account was 8 years old.. this means it’s predated out relationship by a couple of years, what even more shocking was the stuff she had said on there, so much hate towards random people, for seemingly no reason at all.

This was not just one comment here and there either, literally just an account dedicated to hating on people and she seemed proud of it in her comments, one recent example was she spent an entire day just hassling someone, it doesn’t even stop there because she will make up stories, fat shame people, b**lying those with disability’s.

(this one hurts as she knows I have autism) and claims everyone who tell her she needs is “projecting”. I would sometimes come back from work and she would be in a bad mood but wouldn’t tell me why, Upon looking at her comment history a lot of her bad moods seem to line up with days she got downvoted a lot,

she even goes as far as to lie about her physical appearance just to bring down others, its sick. How do I even approach this? This stuff is just downright hateful and I don’t want her to freak out at me. What do I even do? I’m scared she is one argument away from someone coming to find her.

See what others had to share with OP:

Murauder −  This is the person you are dating. This is how she behaves when there are no consequences of her actions.. She is not a kind person.

elbkind_ −  Chances are – she already knows via this post

Rounders_in_knickers −  What do you think about having a partner who secretly likes to be cruel to others and thinks it’s funny? Only you can answer that.

koboldmaedchen −  Catfish her and make her harass you. Then cry at the dinner table over the ableist Redditor who ruined your self-esteem. Hope to find this on BORA in a few weeks.

kmf1107 −  I find it so pathetic that she’s agoraphobic, which implies she has anxiety around social interactions, being humiliated, etc. but she’s being cruel to others online and that definitely affects their anxiety / mental health. This is a s**tty person and I’d cut my losses tbh.

Musja1 −  Engage with her in Reddit comments (using different name). Once it blows up and she is disrespectful to you you call her out on it.

cholotariat −  Why would you stay with someone like that? Bounce on that troll and then come back here to post about it like a normal person.

jazzhandsdancehands −  Just say you didn’t know she had reddit and that you were surprised at her online persona. Tell her you felt really disappointed at the things you read. Say the lack of compassion he had towards others was confusing because both you and her are… and yet she was making fun/ b**lying people.. Ask her to help you understand.

I dare say she will say you invaded her privacy and reddit is just a place where she can say whatever and be whatever she wants to be.. Then where to from there, no clue. All you can do is communicate and hopefully she will change how she is now that you know. Or she will make a new accounts- rinse and repeat.

Telmakiara −  What if this is fake, and you’re a troll?

Own_Sandwich6610 −  She showed who she truly is. I don’t know about you but I would up and leave.

Should the Redditor confront their partner about her behavior, or is there a more thoughtful way to address the deeper issues at play? How would you handle discovering such a troubling secret about someone you love? Share your advice and opinions below!