My (27M) wife (27F) be just got upset at me for kissing her cheek, is this salvageable?

A 27-year-old man shares his confusion after his wife reacted negatively to a simple kiss on her cheek, and their communication issues have been causing strain in their marriage. After attempting to show affection, his wife responded with disgust, leading to a sense of rejection and frustration.

Despite apologizing and trying to understand her perspective, he feels that the situation is becoming increasingly difficult to navigate. He’s seeking advice on whether this is salvageable or if their relationship may be beyond repair. Read on to explore more about the situation and how others may have dealt with similar struggles.

‘ My (27M) wife (27F) be just got upset at me for kissing her cheek, is this salvageable?’

I’ll try to keep this brief while including all necessary details. My wife and I have been going through a rough patch. There’s problems we’re working on, but we’re especially focusing on communication. Earlier tonight we were sitting on the couch after dinner.

She was scrolling through Instagram so I asked if I could come over and watch the reels I sent her. She said yes so I came over and cuddled up to her. After watching some stuff, I leaned over and kissed her on her cheek. She kind of recoiled and asked what I was doing with a tone of disgust.

I told her I was just trying to kiss her on the cheek. She then gave me a weird look and said “why?”. I said I felt like I didn’t need a reason and just wanted to show her some affection. She then returned to scrolling and I left about 30 seconds later feeling very rejected.

I came back after a couple minutes and she asked if I was sad. I responded by saying yeah and after she didn’t respond I left to go play games. After about 10 minutes she came in and said how I had no right to be acting upset like this is some r**ection when I was the one that came into her space and rubbed my face on her without her consent.

I apologized and said I didn’t realize I crossed a line. I said we’ve kissed each other on the cheek plenty and didn’t realize I needed consent everytime. I asked if she wanted me to explicitly ask next time and she said yes.

We’ve had some small follow up discussions but I can’t really understand what I did wrong. She said how I’m handling things is annoying because it’s always about my feelings when if anyone should be upset it should be her.

I honestly think her seeing me sad is a trigger that makes her angry but I’m only sad because of how disgusted she acted when I was just trying to show some love. We’ve had plenty discussions about me feeling rejected so maybe she’s just sick of it?

Is there anyone that can help give me perspective or is this not save-able? I don’t want to be in a marriage where I can’t kiss my wife or show her love without having to overthink things.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Ankit1000 −  Bro, you kissed your wife on her cheek, not rubbed your groin on her face. Literally the most basic expression of human love and affection, and she called it “rubbing your face and breaking her boundaries”, and it is now annoyed you’re sad about it. Either go to couples counseling or get divorced. This sounds emotionally a**sive.

kcharlto −  Regardless of what has happened, at this point, she doesn’t like you. You need to have a serious discussion about whether this relationship is worth it for both of you.

AnakinsCharredDick −  She’s just looking for reasons to be angry at you.

onedayatatime08 −  I feel like there’s more to this. What problems are you having that you’re working on?

robuttocks −  Your wife doesn’t want to be with you. Sorry, man. But that’s the long and short of it

DBmarriagenow −  You came into her space and rubbed your face on her without consent. Now you have to ask every time? Are you sure you want to bother saving this marriage? I wouldn’t if I was you.

LOUDCO-HD −  If you need to obtain consent for a rock on the cheek, your marriage is doomed. I’m thrilled when my wife gives me a spontaneous expression of love.

monday-night-fuckbal −  Not gonna sugar coat this for you, this is done. If something as simple as giving her a kiss is causing this kind of difficulty, there’s nowhere to go.

If your attempts at connection are being rejected like this, you’ve probably already got a mountain of resentment built up. If you can’t do something this simple without it blowing up, it’s time to call it a day. Having sad feelings shouldn’t make someone angry.

i_1999 −  She doesn’t love you tbh

RedhotGuard21 −  Reading the first bit, it kinda sounded like me sometimes. When my husband is all extra lovey outta nowhere my brain goes “what’s wrong?” I get very confused and concerned waiting for the other show to drop. The rest had me going WTF, not cool. Sounds almost like she may be done and just hasn’t faced it yet