My (25F) boyfriend (29M) punched me, is there coming back from this?
When a partner resorts to physical violence, it shatters the foundation of trust and safety in a relationship. A young woman faces a profound dilemma after her boyfriend, engrossed in a video game, reacts violently when she seeks his attention. This incident raises critical questions about forgiveness, boundaries, and personal safety. Read the full story below…
‘My (25F) boyfriend (29M) punched me, is there coming back from this? ‘
Expert Opinions:
Dr. Lisa Fontes, a psychologist specializing in abusive relationships, emphasizes that physical violence is a significant red flag. “Even a single incident of physical aggression can indicate a propensity for future violence. It’s crucial to take such actions seriously and consider them deal-breakers in a relationship.”
According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, abusive behavior often escalates over time. They advise that “violence is a choice, and only the abuser can make the decision to stop. It’s important for victims to prioritize their safety and well-being.”
In a case reported by The Guardian, a woman forgave her partner after a single violent incident, only to experience repeated abuse later. This underscores the potential risks of overlooking initial acts of violence.
Check out how the community responded:
Discussions on platforms like Reddit reveal a consensus that physical violence is unacceptable. Many users stress the importance of leaving a relationship after such an incident, citing concerns about personal safety and the potential for future abuse.
The occurrence of physical violence in a relationship is a grave issue that cannot be ignored. While apologies may be sincere, they do not erase the act of violence or guarantee it won’t happen again. Prioritizing personal safety and seeking support from trusted friends, family, or professional resources is essential.
What are your thoughts? Is there ever justification for staying in a relationship after physical violence has occurred? How would you advise someone in this situation?
If he did it once he will do it again. He is a childish coward.
Leave him sweetie as much as you may love him, if you forgive him it will continue to happen so in the end he won’t even try to get your forgiveness as he knows you always come back! We are all different people but there is no excuse for a male or female partner to EVER put their hands on them!
You said he never has hit you before? Does he do drugs or have a mental health issue? Usually rage like this is stemming from something else, especially over a video game. He should have never put his hands on you period! He’s a grown man, not a teenager that has no idea how to handle his emotions. Get out! Get out!
He was wrong for not taking notice of you and hitting you, buuut you were wrong for maybe ruining hours or days of work on his hobby which makes you controlling , think before running into traffic and blamming the driver, he was wrong but hes not alone, look at your actions
As a former director of DV SA services, I’d say there is no turning back. A couple of serious flags. A: over a video game? Especially a violent one. He is engaging in a violent plat role. He is internalizing violence and appears addicted (at least by your description) b: he is clearly prioritizing thrilling role play violence over your relationship. Leave now. There is no turning back. Thank God you don’t have children and you still have financial independence. You might want to visit a DV therapist or support group.
Leave him please. If he places video games above you he is not a man. He struck you HE IS NOT A MAN. He is a peice of garbage that doesn’t deserve you. Dont be a statistic. You are a living and loving human being whom he struck for wanting to spend time with him on a holiday. He needs help.
I used to be this guy. Not to that extreme, in that I never punched my girlfriend. But I would be volatile, incredibly threatening and angry and a bit physical if we both got into it.
I Convinced myself it was ok because I ‘wasn’t hitting her’. It cost me my girlfriend at the time who I absolutely adored.
I’d been through a lot and didn’t realize I was mentally unwell.(It was the 90:s – we didn’t care about that stuff back then!). But it took like 2 decades to wise up / clean up my act and realize that behaviour was 100% not ok. I now have two kids and a wife, a 50/50 approach to our entire life as we both work full time etc. Couldn’t be more ashamed of that angry little dickhead I was.
Nowadays we are more educated and women know they deserve better. Do not go back. Do not accept his reasoning. If he does that over a video game, he will definitely do it if he is drunk or you do something he doesn’t feel like he can control it. The alarm bells are loud. Please just leave him. It will be the learning he needs.