My 23F bf 24M didn’t want to pay 200$ to save my life

One Reddit user shares a harrowing experience about her boyfriend’s lack of empathy and responsibility after she was drugged at a bar. Despite being unconscious and in a vulnerable state, her boyfriend hesitated to pay a small extra fare for a taxi ride to the emergency room, choosing to walk instead.

Even after the incident, he focused more on the financial costs than her well-being, making light of her trauma. Struggling with his indifference and the emotional toll of the situation, she’s now questioning whether this relationship is worth saving. Read the full story below to understand the full extent of what happened.

‘ My 23F bf 24M didn’t want to pay 200$ to save my life’

I was at a bar with my bf and his friends a while ago. We all had a great time, dancing on tables, singing and drinking. I remember feeling totally fine one second, and the next I got VEEERY unsteady, and I lost connection with my body.

I got confused and scared, but then just SO CALM. It was all types of weird. This is seconds here and there I remember, most things that happened doesn’t exist in my memory. I became unconscious, and according to my bf, the few times I opened my eyes they looked very scared.

He was told to get a taxi and get me to the emergency room fast. He managed to get me into the taxi and it started to drive. My boyfriend told me that during the drive the driver told him that he would have to pay 200$ extra if I threw up. Thren my bf said f**k no, stopped the driver and wanted to WALK to the emergency room. I was still unconscious, and he didn’t know why, or if my life was at risk.

Luckily for him, the police was driving around and saw me laying on the ground. They asked him what’s up, and drove us to the emergency room with blue lights on and fast. They took it very seriously and without them my bf would have been lucky to even get me to the emergency room. Turns out I got drugged that night.

It got worse, as he forced me to walk with shaky legs from the emergency room the day after. A walk that should have been 20min took me 2hours. Even started talking about the fact that he could have gotten drugged too, and that maybe he got a little dugged??? Even though he didn’t feel weird at all that night???

THEN he started to talk about him paying the taxi 40$ for the little drive and how much that was! Like he wanted me to pay him back or something?? He constantly stated that it was 40$ and how sick that was. (It’s the normal price around here.)

He looked up symptoms related to being drugged, and found that long term symptoms would mostly be trauma. The next weekend I had to be with his friends again and some people I didn’t know. They talked about that night and even made joked a little around me being drugged. (Not a lot but I felt awful.)

He also ignored me once when I said someone was following me. He was never scared of letting me walk around in town at night, but if a female friend did it, then he would have to follow her. He argues when I’m scared instead of making me feel better or protecting me.

Other than that he’s a kind man that doesn’t want to hurt people but like.. This can NOT be normal??? Is this a relationship worth it? I’m scared I’m overreacting but keep in mind that most of this is told from his perspective, as I don’t remember that night.

EDIT: I forgot to say that I asked him what he would have done differently if this happened today, and paying the taxi was not on the list.

EDIT 2: I said it in the comments, but it’s difficult to even see it at this point. I just have to say that he did call for an ambulance, but they didn’t come. According to him it was one of the first things he did. But he told them I was conscious and so they didn’t feel the need to come. An ambulance is basically free here, meaning it would have saved him some money.

He would have no reason not to call. Some people also said that I should have payed him back for the taxi, and I agree based on the information I gave you. But I was the one that payed for drinks that night, and I spent A LOT more than 40$ on him, in total I spent 176$ to be exact.

Edit 3: I also want to say thank you for all the feedback! It feels both awful and good having my feeling validated. In a way I wanted you guys to tell me that I was overreacting and that he really tried his best. Seeing that you also find this situation a little fucked up makes me feel less crazy though haha. And yeah.. I’ll d**p him. I think it will be the best for the both of us.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

tulips49 −  Let’s put it this way – I’ve done more to help a passed out stranger than your own boyfriend did to help you.

hisimpendingbaldness −  Well now you know your worth to him, something less than 200 dollars. If you think you are worth more, you know what to do.

CrystalQueen3000 −  is this relationship worth it?. No. He’s a selfish self involved man with no compassion and it doesn’t sound like he cares about you at all

stargal81 −  D**p him. He put a price on your life, & apparently, it’s a max of $40

RumpledTitSkins −  My sister in christ, why do you even have to ask? You know he’s a shitbag and its not worth it.

SJclueless −  OP, I hope you see this. The week I met my (now) husband, I got drugged at the bar where I’d gone to see a drag show with some co-workers. I let my guard down because I thought I was safe, given the atmosphere. I had met my husband less than a week before this. He didn’t go with us that night.

But as I, unknowingly, texted him in the early morning hours, he became concerned with how i seemed “off.” He called off work (Losing money and his hourly rate would have equaled a couple hundred too), Came to my hotel room (BTW my work adventure had me out of state for a few weeks so I had NO ONE I knew well near me) and he convinced me to go to the hospital.

I remember NOTHING of this, except a brief glimpse of me walking out to meet him at his car and then next thing in the hospital room. Not only did he stay by me through the hospital visit and the vomiting from the “just in case” meds approximately SIX DAYS after we met,

but he also drove me back to the hotel, kept watch over me, and encouraged me to try to eat (food he paid for). We were essentially strangers. He has never once complained about any of that. So…. ditch the BF is what I’m saying.

UsuallyWrite2 −  Why didn’t they just call an ambulance? It doesn’t seem like your BF has very good judgment. And neither do any of the people you were hanging out with.

WatermelonSugar47 −  Leave him immediately. He not only jeopardized your life, he guilted you about it and then let his friends make fun of you for it. Cut them all out.

slainfulcrum −  Had a similar ex, who refused to pay a small bill for my care. My mother is also like this, to the extent in which my sister almost died from septic shock because she didn’t want to burden my mother with the hospital bill despite that she had a 106 degree fever and fatally low blood pressure. My family has millions saved but make us feel like s**t if we ever go to the hospital and drop $1000, regardless of how close we are to dying.. Drop this man and run.

Master_Post4665 −  I hate to say this, but it’s possible he doped your drink, then panicked when you got more drugged than he wanted you to be.

Do you think the boyfriend’s actions were justified, or did he fail to show basic care for his partner in a life-threatening situation? What would you do if you were in her shoes? Share your thoughts below, and let us know how you would handle this relationship dynamic.