My (20M) wife (39F) hit me. Is it over?
A Reddit user (20M) shares his difficult experience of being physically hit by his wife (39F) after confronting her about lewd messages and infidelity. He had been feeling the strain of their marriage, including controlling behavior from his wife, and had discovered explicit conversations with others.
After pressing her about the messages, his wife physically attacked him. The user is now reflecting on his actions and questioning whether the marriage can be fixed or if it is over.
‘ My (20M) wife (39F) hit me. Is it over?’
Basically the title. I’ve known my wife since I was sixteen. I realize through reading this sub that I’ve been groomed. She moved me all the way across the country. We live on the eastern side of the US. I work in an office making great pay. She is a trust fund kid, so she obviously makes more than me. Our marriage has been horrible since we walked out of the church.
She had my location on at all times and would question me daily. When I saw that she had been sending l**d messages to men and women online. I would ask her about it and she would tell me that I was seeing things. It all came to a head three days ago. I questioned my wife about the messages and this time I continued to press her and this time I got her phone.
I didn’t need to read much. There were pictures and messages about them having s**. I told that I had seen the messages and she snapped. She picked up our lamp and hit me in the face. The glass is thick so it didn’t break. I tried to get up and she hit me again, this time right in my groin.
I stayed down because if I had gotten up, I might have ended up writing this story behind bars. I laid there while my wife gathered some things and took off. I’ve taken PTO these last two days and I’ve just been reflecting. Should I have taken her phone? Did I misinterpret the messages? Can I fix this? Is it over?
See what others had to share with OP:
shinjuku-dreaming − 1. She’s a predator. 2. She’s way too old. 3. She’s a cheater. 4. She’s paranoid. 5. **She’s physically abusive**. You deserve much better. Get your s**t in order and ghost this old witch.
KaraAnne00111 − She was 35 and you were 16? Sounds like a predator. I’d get out. You’re young you will find someone else. Don’t put up with that abuse. Not because maybe she was cheating but because she hurt you. If she hurts you once she will keep hurting you. Guaranteed.
fuckthisshit204 − This age gap is highly disturbing.
melody0125 − Well I cant offer any advice because it seems you’ve gotten as much as I would be able to offer. I’d take pictures of your face and stuff, including the lamp. Might even bring that s**t into the police for evidence. However, I am terribly sorry you had to go through this. You are spot on about your abuse and I hope you go to therapy when you get the chance.
I wish you good healing. Oh and, you might be able to make her a registered s** offender. I would. Because that’s what she f**king is. If you can show they you two had s**ual relations (even if just nudes) then she can be prosecuted for accepting child pornography and statutory rape. Which, ruin the bitches life, please? We dont want any other young men going through this.
Asleep_Pay_5133 − Dude leave. She hit you with a lamp
NedAnti09 − Keep us updated please
catsandcandles13 − Hi, Wow…umm…groomed? As a 31 year old female I can imagine going near a 16 year old. It would disgust me. Anyone under 25 looks like a child. Really. They look like children absolutely. I can barely type. This is utterly repulsive. As far as the question. That’s scary. Really scary.
I am someone who went through severe abuse and trauma. If it happened once, it will happen again. It shows that she has zero respect for you. She also doesn’t care if you hurt. I am really worried about the fact she was 35 when you were 16. If you need to talk then you can talk to me. I’m really really really worried.
FastWalkingShortGuy − Contact the authorities. Also, if she moved you across the country before you were 18, she may be guilty of transport of a minor across state lines, which is a federal offense and a felony. The FBI may want to have a chat with her about that.
[Reddit User] − You need to press charges, get a restraining order and hire a divorce attorney. If the statute of limitations has not run out, you should also press charges for statutory rape. It’s over. She groomed you. You need to get away.
fishmom5 − Honey. She didn’t just hit you, she picked up an object and struck you. That can *kill* you. Do you understand how much danger you are in? This is very, very unhealthy. Please call the hotline.
Do you think the user should try to repair his relationship with his wife, or is it time for him to move on? How would you advise someone in a toxic and abusive relationship to proceed? Share your thoughts below and join the conversation!