My (20M) Friend (30F) i met in group therapy just confessed her feelings to me, and idk what to do…

A young man (20M) attending group therapy for his mental health recently bonded with a fellow member (30F). Their shared interests created a comfortable friendship until she confessed having feelings for him, leaving him unsure about the situation.

Considering the age difference and his current emotional state, he plans to seek guidance from his individual therapist before deciding. Read his story below.

‘ My (20M) Friend (30F) i met in group therapy just confessed her feelings to me, and idk what to do…’

so, i just recently started group therapy last month due to my rapidly declining mental health. i was kinda iffy at first to do group therapy due to my age and the other people in the group. the first person i was introduced to at therapy was her. we both got along well, talked a lot, and socialized every week about video games, rpg games, etc.

today, i started noticing that she may have started to develop feelings for me. i was saying jokes that i thought wasn’t funny to me, but she laughed a good amount and felt very happy towards me. she slipped me a piece of paper and asked me if i could exchange my number to her, so i did since i felt comfortable with her as a friend.

we then texted for a bit and talked after therapy. well, just randomly, she called me and said that she had to confess something to me. next thing you know, she said that she had a crush on me. i felt really awkward about it especially due to the age gap.

literally earlier in the day, i was talking to my 1on1 therapist about my ex wanting to get back together for a 3rd time, and he told me that it probs wasn’t the best idea. now that my friend confessed and brought up the idea, i think the next best thing is to discuss it with my 1on1 and see what he thinks.

he is a guy i really get along with and really feel trusted with. i don’t really mind the age gap, since im 20 and shes 30, but it still feels really, really off. i might give it a shot, but i wanna wait a tad bit first before i make a decision and see how i feel around her still.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

fiery_valkyrie −  I reckon there is a really good chance that dating people in the same group therapy is strongly discouraged. Tell your therapist. It is a bad idea for both of you and will likely interfere with your mental health.

Elfich47 −  Two emotionally vulnerable people trauma bonding over their therapy does not sound like a good idea.

MorthaP −  You should tell whoever is leading the therapy group about this.

pbblankgirl −  Don’t date someone you met in group therapy. Horrible idea.

Java_Bomber −  Yeah definitely wait to talk to your people before you make any decisions…that seems sensible. You don’t particularly seem adverse to dating her. Care to elaborate why it feels off?

PalmElle −  If it goes terribly, do you have other therapy options? Because the one you have won’t likely feel safe any more.

chr8me −  She’s going to s**k the life out of you in a bad way

Navigating romantic feelings in therapeutic settings can be complex, especially when age and emotional health are factors. Would you explore the connection or prioritize personal boundaries? Share your perspective below!