is mine (18F) and my bf’s (18M) relationship weird?

A woman (18F) is questioning if her two-year relationship with her boyfriend (18M) is “weird.” Despite it being their first relationship, they barely text and have only kissed twice. She values face-to-face communication and is unsure about his commitment.

She often wonders if she’s wasting her time due to a perceived lack of effort from him, but loves him and struggles with the idea of breaking up. Friends have said she’s out of his league, and she’s unsure how to navigate these feelings. Read her story below.

‘ is mine (18F) and my bf’s (18M) relationship weird?’

This is both of ours first relationship, but i do know one or two things abt romantic stuff (while he isnt as romantic from what i have seen). Me and my bf have been together for 2 years, and people think that its weird how we have only kissed like twice, and how we barely text, but honestly, i dont really like texting and i prefer face-to face convos, not to sound woke, i genuinely cant express myself over texts.

Yes, we do text abt our next hangouts and stuff but not as often bcs we mostly hang out at school, even if half of the time hes hanging out w his friends, wich sometimes bothers me, plus we barely communicate about our feelings,

i would love to but i think that hes scared of commitment/ Lots of friends are telling me that im wasting my time and that im out of his league, wich i dont agree with, but i do think a lot about breaking up with him, because sometimes i sense lack of effort from him in our relationship, but at the same time i love him and,

if i ever do break up wih him, it would be really hard to find another guy as nice and respectful as him because i live in a more “alpha male energy” country. So, is our relationship weird?

ok so this is a edit just to say thank u for all ur responses were so helpful and i just wanna clarify that i meant “woke” in the way so people dont comment that i think im different from other teenagers, not addicted to texting and that im so “down to earth”,

which im definitely not, just bcs i like irl conversations doesnt mean hat i dont have a high screen time (im sure that some people might think that i didnt use the word correctly is what im saying, in reality i not sure of the real definiton of this word tho 😭😭 ).

And yes i am pretty sure that we are dating, we do say “i love you” not in a friends way and we have gotten each other gifts for our anniversaries, valentines day and birthdays (which is bare minimum ik). As in for s**uality i am in fact bis**ual and hes straight, now idk if hes using me as a cover up (i hope not, but im pretty sure he isnt)

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

TrickInvite6296 −  uhh.. are you dating or are you just friends?

looking_glass333 −  you guys don’t even know eachother

Lonely_Milk_Jug −  You say hes nice and respectful but how would you even know if you guys dont talk? It sounds like youre just kinda friends who have kissed twice and thats it

wasitthepotatoes −  texting is woke?

SassyBabe6939 −  Umm… kinda sounds like you guys just enjoy having the titles. Because this really isn’t a relationship? (Even for high school).

AbiesHalva7 −  “Hard to find guys as nice”??? Emmm nope. It will be easy peasy cause he is not nice at all if he doesn’t text you, kiss you, spend alone time with you, can’t commit, can’t talk feelings… what exactly IS nice about him?

pradbritt −  sounds like every relationship i had with a man before i knew i was lesbian

Sharona01 −  Curious, what gives you the impression he is your boyfriend?. Do you spend any alone time? Why do your friends say your friends say you are out of his league? Why do you always hang with his friends and not yours? How often does he initiate hanging out?. Something doesn’t make sense

seregwen5 −  What does “woke” mean to you?

PresToon −  You sure you’re dating? You gotta communicate if your relationship isn’t how you want it, that’s the only way there could be change. For an 18m not wanting more than a kiss a year, I would think he’s gay, as**ual, not attracted/interested in you, or you guys aren’t actually dating. You gotta talk to him to figure it out.

Are these issues signs of incompatibility, or just normal relationship growing pains? How important is communication and effort in a relationship, especially in the early stages? Share your thoughts below!