Is a picnic basket too much on a first date.

A Reddit user seeks advice about their upcoming first date, which feels particularly special due to the unique and almost “fated” connection they share with the other person. They’ve planned a hiking trip to a serene waterfall and are debating whether to surprise their date with a picnic basket, complete with wine and snacks.

While the thoughtful gesture feels natural to their dating style, they’re worried it might come across as too romantic or intense for a first meeting. The user wants to strike the perfect balance between showing effort and keeping things lighthearted.

‘ Is a picnic basket too much on a first date.’

First dates are exciting but can also be a little nerve-wracking, especially when you already feel a deep connection with the person before even meeting them. I’ve been told I’m great at first dates, and in some cases, I’ve even been called someone’s “best first date ever,” which is a compliment I take seriously. This time, though, I’m feeling a bit uncertain, and I could use some perspective.

I’m going on a first date with a girl I’ve never met in person, but we have some almost eerie life connections. It’s like the universe has been weaving our paths together for years without us knowing. These crazy coincidences make me feel like this date could be really special, but they’re also causing me to overthink every little detail.

My plan is to take her hiking to a waterfall—a beautiful and serene spot where we can enjoy nature and hopefully have some meaningful conversation. I’m also considering surprising her with a picnic basket filled with wine, some snacks, and a few other thoughtful touches. Normally, I go into dates with 100% confidence in my plans, and that self-assurance tends to resonate well.

But this time, I’m second-guessing myself: is a picnic on a first date too much? Could it come across as overly romantic or even a bit creepy? On one hand, I think a picnic could be a great way to show effort and thoughtfulness. It’s unique and memorable, and it fits the atmosphere of the hiking trip perfectly.

On the other hand, I worry that it might set a tone that feels too intense for someone I’m just getting to know. While I’m confident in my ability to gauge the vibe and adjust as needed, I don’t want to risk making her uncomfortable by overdoing it.

This feels like a balancing act between showing genuine interest and ensuring the date remains lighthearted and fun. I want to make a good impression without putting unnecessary pressure on the situation. At the same time, I feel like going all-in on thoughtful gestures is part of what makes my first dates stand out.

So, is the picnic idea a little too much for a first date, or could it be the perfect way to set the stage for a memorable connection? I’d love to hear thoughts from others—especially those who’ve been on the receiving end of a first date like this.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

mrsmiller4166 −  Oh my gosh, no. That is a dream date. Do it.

[Reddit User] −  Hell brother pick me up you can take me on a picnic date. I’m not even gay (not that theres anything wrong with that) Edit: scratch the wine throw a case of beer in and you got me on the hook 😂

JohnHoney420 −  Im not talking about staring in her eyes and feeding her grapes. Im talking about breaking out a basket on the tailgate of my truck and drinking some wine/ eating some cheese.

symmetry-of-zero −  You’re making a lot of men angry who are too lazy to do this lol. Go for it bro, chics love that s**t as I’m sure you know. Let us know how it goes

[Reddit User] −  F**k yeah picnic basket! Pro-tip from a picnic loving lady: throw a fancy chocolate bar in there to reveal post wine and cheese. Nothing like surprise chocolate when you think the treats are done!

wehavealostchildhere −  As long as you’re not planning on cutting a hole in the bottom of the basket and sticking your d**k in there, you’ll be fine.
Sounds like a great first date idea

Kinzythefreak −  Man, if my boyfriend would have done that on our first date, or just a date now in general it would make me so happy. I think it’s cute, romantic, and it shows you’ve put some thought into it. I say go for it!

feelingpositive857 −  I would put out for a picnic basket

subtopewdiepie- −  This is big d**k energy.