I lied about having an a**rtion and kept the baby?

A Redditor shares a complicated story of infidelity, unexpected pregnancy, and the struggle of keeping a secret. After an affair during a rough patch in her marriage, she found herself pregnant with a child fathered by a man who wanted nothing to do with parenthood.

Despite her husband’s support and her initial decision to terminate the pregnancy, she chose to keep the baby. Now, two years later, she has run into the child’s biological father, who wants to be involved, leaving her in a moral quandary. Read the full story below to see how she navigates this emotional situation.

‘ I lied about having an a**rtion and kept the baby?’

For background, I’m 28F and I had an extramarital affair. My husband and I were having some issues. He was unfaithful and we were not living in the same house. I was angry at him. And just felt completely numb and betrayed. Then one day , I met a man. 26M he was nice and really funny. Let’s call him Corin.

We went out for drinks and one thing led to any other and we had a one night stand, and we had the most disappointing s** ever. I felt even worse. I meant to go to the pharmacy and get the morning after pill but couldn’t as I found out my grandmother was in the hospital. Then I eventually forgot about the whole thing.

Fast forward 3.5 months. My husband and I started to work things out in therapy. I told him about the affair and we moved on. Our marriage had been stronger and happier. We were enjoying raising our son. And then I found out I was pregnant. The timing coincides with my affair with Corin. I contacted him and notified him after I told my husband.

He gave me $500 to have an a**rtion and gave me a bunch of research about having children by different fathers and scheduled an appointment at the clinic. Said he wasn’t ready to be a father and to get rid of it. My husband being the great guy that he is supported me in whatever I wanted to do and offered to raise the baby.

I couldn’t bring myself to have an a**rtion. And kept the baby. He had blocked me on all platforms and I never knew where he lived. I kept all the communication saved.
Now my daughter is 2 years old. I bumped into him at the grocery store. He saw my daughter and is now wanting contact. He said that the baby looks like him and is very upset that she exists. I haven’t confirmed or denied anything. I have been silent. I feel like such an A-hole..

Lets dive into the reactions from Reddit:

KindSpread8319 −  You need a lawyer. Like, yesterday.

bopperbopper −  Right now your husband is the legal father. If Corin wants contact, he has to go through the courts and request paternity. Do not start any contact with him.

blackday44 −  I applaud you for being honest with everyone about the affair and the baby. I hope you’re able to come to a peaceful agreement with the biodad.

Cowboyslayer1992 −  ESH. This sounds like some small town s**t my wife would go crazy reading about on facebook lol

ImChillMan −  Everybody in this situation is trippin.

Ok-Attempt-622 −  Why TF are we calling this man “Corin”

concern5002 −  In many state fruit of the union is proof of paternity. All kids from a married couple the children are presumed to be from the married couple. Lawyer up and ignore.(edited: and communicate through attorney.)

WhereTheHuskiesGo −  ESH. Why the hell are you rawdogging complete strangers? I will never get over the number of people who do that and then think the fact that they don’t want a pregnancy or a pregnancy wouldn’t make sense for their situation makes them immune to a pregnancy. One condom could have prevented this whole thing and I hope this serves as a lesson. And get a STI test. This may turn out ti be even worse than you thought.

Substantial-Air3395 −  I can’t get past the unsafe s** with basically a stranger Edit: OP did NOT user any type of birth control. her birth control didn’t fail, because it was nonexistent.

LukeKim60 −  My brother married a woman who was pregnant by another man. My brother didn’t care who the bio Dad was, my nephew was his no matter what. Then later when the relationship fell apart my ex sil wanted full custody as my brother was not the bio Dad. The Judge said the Court will NOT bastardize a child. In the eyes of the law, my brother was the father.

How would you handle the situation if you were in the Redditor’s shoes? Should she confront the father about his intentions, or is it best to keep the past in the past for the sake of her family? Share your thoughts and opinions below!