I don’t know if im happy in my relationship anymore and i don’t know what to do about it

A young man finds himself questioning his happiness in a seemingly good relationship, unsure if it’s due to personal struggles or deeper compatibility issues. Torn between self-doubt and the fear of hurting his partner, he seeks advice on what to do. Read his story below.

‘ I don’t know if im happy in my relationship anymore and i don’t know what to do about it’

I (21M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (22F) about 7 months now and i’m really starting to question how i feel. For context the relationship has been good and not really had any problems, we don’t argue very often and when we do we solve it.

I do think i love her and while im questioning whether or not i want to be with her i can’t imagine that being with anyone else would be any better or make me happier. I know that I am the problem but i don’t know what to do about it,

I’ve started to think that maybe im just not a “relationship person” because realistically if i can’t make it work with her i don’t see myself making it work with anyone. Honestly i’ve got so much s**t going on in my life at the moment and i feel like im trying to take it out on the only good thing i’ve got going on.

But im just not happy and the relationship a lot of the time feels like the cause of that even though it’s not. I don’t know what’s the best thing to do for me and for her and honestly just need some advice, am i just being an i**ot and trying to find problems with a good relationship or am i just not ready to be in a relationship at this point in my life?

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

blumoon138 −  It’s okay to have too much s**t going on in your life to have space for a relationship. That doesn’t mean that you wouldn’t be interested and committed in the future when the timing is right.

However, I also wonder if the issue is that you’re seeing the relationship as a strain/ one more area you need to perform rather than going to your partner for emotional support. Have you talked to her about feeling o**rwhelmed?

decaturbob −  – this is the “why” in why counseling exist as we rarely can see ourselves objectivity and to be able address issues, that is a must

writinwater −  You’ve only been with her for seven months! You might just not have really clicked after all, or you might not be in a place where you can really fit in a relationship right now.

It’s pretty premature to be questioning whether you’re going to die alone and be eaten by wolverines or something. If you’re not into it, tell her so and part amicably. People do it all the time. You’ll both be fine.

Turbulent-Ease-1126 −  You may have a heart wall of trapped emotions holding you back!

Relationships can be challenging, especially when life feels overwhelming. Should he take time for self-reflection, communicate his feelings with his partner, or step back to prioritize his well-being? What would you advise him to do? Share your thoughts in the comments below!