I could’t forgive my husband for our wedding and wedding night. And after two weeks our marrige ended

A Reddit user shared a heartbreaking account of how her marriage unraveled just two weeks after the wedding. She describes feeling ignored and dismissed by her husband during their wedding celebration and the subsequent days, leading to emotional turmoil and the eventual end of their relationship. Read her full story below to understand the depth of her experience.

‘ I could’t forgive my husband for our wedding and wedding night. And after two weeks our marrige ended’

I’m sorry but I’m not fluent in English. Me (27F) and my Husband (29M) got married about 2 weeks ago. I have son 3.5yo that adores him and He is like father to Him. Evrything started about 2h in to our wedding party. My Husband got mad at me for ignirong him while I had a short converstion with his best man making jokes. I “ignored” Him only because I didn’t hear him speaking to me from behind and I told Him that.. He told me in that moment that. He Has nothing to say to me and he won’t be talking to me anymore that Day.

After that I went outside and started cring. I wanted to talk to Him but he refused. Pepole came up to me and asked what’s wrong and all I could say was that I don’t know outside that my husband doesn’t want to talk to me on our wedding Day. About 2h later he came up to me mad and told me to stop cring and to go and entertain the guests. I could not bring myself to do that. I found a place where I could be alone and cried The whole night.

I came up to him in one moment to ask him to leave with me for an hour so we can talk (we had a room upstairs). He refused saing that he Has responsibility to be with our gests. I asked – what if he loses me over this? Im hurting and I need my husband. Talk to me.
He responded that if I want to I can leave The wedding ring on The drawer and this way he will know if it’s over after The party.

He came upstairs after 3am. I tried to tuch Him and hug him with made him mad. He told me he came to ned to sleep off, and he doesn’t wan’t me to disturb nim. I tried to hug him 2 more Times but he phisycly pushed me away. After that he go up and wen’t downstairs to drink with his friends. What is important is that there was never anything romantic or s***al between me and his best man. He told me that I disrespected him in that moment by not lisening to him and that is The reason behind his words and actions.

It’s been 2 weeks and it was The worst Day of my Life. I tried to talk to Him about it but he dosn’t wan’t to. He apologised by saing “I’m sorry, now can we end this conversation?” Evry time I cried he was agry and said that I don’t have a reason to cry. Yeaterday he told me that he doesn’t have feelings of care for me, or need to Comfort me when i cry, or to be with me when I’m hurt because I destroyed it with my constant need to talk about that night and our feelings.

He got up and told me that: he loves me and will protect me from enything bad in life. He huged me while I melted in his arms. He kissed me on The forehead and looked me in the eyes with warm smile on his face I remember from two weeks ago. I felt safe. Then he took a step back and asked. “Like this? That’s what you expected?” While his face expresion changed in an instant. My heart broke.. ” How was I?” I cried but in silence. I told Him that it’s His decision and I can stay his wife because of my son and finantial reasons.

I told Him that I love him, and that I will never trust him again and our marrige will be only about kids, work and finances or we get a divorce. He tod me that I described what a Good marrige is for him and smiled. He wen’t to bed right after while I went out on The balcony and cried.. He was asleep when I came back. I known him for 10 years. He is The Love of my Life, I don’t know what I did to make nim like that. What can be wrong with me? Im sorry for The rant and my bad English. I’m devastated and I don’t know what to do.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

swansongblue −  It sounds like you’ve been acquainted with him for ten years OP. You’ve only just got to know him. To see the real him. Breaking up will not be a bad thing for you. I’ve got a feeling that if you stay with him, you’ll see a lot more of this aspect of his character. Good luck.

GandalftheFright −  Honey, you might have hooked up with a s**iopath. I don’t think it’s any coincidence that he’s had such a dramatic personality shift right after your wedding; he believes he has you now and doesn’t have to pretend anymore. What else has he done to you in the past that has hurt you?

JackNotName −  Please do not stay with this man. He does not love. He does not respect you. He is incapable of dealing with you in a reasonable, adult, mature manner. You deserve much better and the type of marriage you describe will be one of misery. You deserve so much more than this. Look into just getting your marriage annulled. Good news is, that given how the wedding went, no one who cares for you will be surprised.

anonattentionwhore −  There’s nothing wrong with you , wanting to communicate your feelings is a perfectly normal And healthy response to being hurt . I’m am sorry for your hardship , he sounds like a Very cruel man.

Viviaana −  Sounds like he was testing how far he can push you so he doesn’t need to treat you with any respect now you’re “trapped” as his wife, you need to get out of there, it’s clear he isn’t going to treat you right at all.

sapsap32321 −  I known him for 10 years. He is The Love of my Life, I don’t know what I did to make nim like that. What can be wrong with me? This screams manipulation. Get out. You wrote about kids and finance. Find someone who can help you. A shelter will also take you in in your situation. Get someone to help you so you are not alone! There is NOTHING wrong with you. The only wrong thing here is, that he is tricking you. He is NOT the love of your life. He can be dangerous and you probably haven’t seen the worst yet. Do not stay with him – for your own sake AND your kid! Get out!!

DanZeeRelationships −  Sorry. Some guys do this. The minute you marry them, they turn into a monster. You need to get an immediate divorce. I am sorry that he hid this abuse from you until he married you. But you have to get away from him. He is an evil man and he does not love you anymore.

squeaktoy_la −  The mask fell off. Please take care of yourself, leave, run, quickly. He was testing what he could get away with, it will only get worse if you stay.

UghIHateThisEvenMore −  First of all, nothing is wrong with you. It sounds like his true self is coming out now that he has married you. It sounds to me that you should leave. I know it’s easier said than done. However an unhappy marriage often does more damage to a kid than divorce. Do you want your kid to copy his behaviour?

bunkbedgirl1989 −  Get it annulled!! ASAP, he is horrible and emotionally abusive. Please don’t wait until it has to be a divorce rather than annulment, it will be so much more painful and expensive to you.

Do you think the husband’s behavior was indicative of deeper issues, or was it a momentary lapse in judgment? How would you handle such a situation if it happened to you or someone you know? Share your thoughts and advice in the comments below!