I (25M) broke up with my girlfriend (23F) 3 months ago after I caught her cheating and now she wants to get back?
A 25-year-old man is facing a tough dilemma after breaking up with his 23-year-old girlfriend three months ago due to infidelity. Despite initially cutting off all contact.
He’s now been bombarded with messages and calls from her expressing that she misses him and wants to reconcile. Though his feelings are conflicted, he’s still unsure whether to let her back into his life. Read the full story below.
‘ I (25M) broke up with my girlfriend (23F) 3 months ago after I caught her cheating and now she wants to get back?’
Hi guys I’ve been in a major dilemma, I broke up with my girl friend a few months ago after she cheated on me and I desperately tried to fix it for the first week since I was in denial, when I did realise that this is not something that I can forgive ever and called it off,
went cold turkey and avoided calling or texting her whatsoever, few weeks in I started to miss her a lot and I showed up to her house uninvited and told her how much I love her and how we chat just throw away 3 years of our lives.
She said she had already moved on with this guy from another state and is pulling off a long distance relationship, I was completely heart broken and I went cold turkey again and blocked her everywhere,
she reached out to me when I was in a trip with this girl and I never responded and again she tried reaching out last week and was showing concern and was asking questions about my life and personal stuff when I told her that I’ve been good and I’ve been seeing a lot of girls, she got pissed off and cut the call,
however she proceeded to call 2 times after that to which I didn’t reply, she says that she misses me, she’s been sending me videos from when we were together, I think she genuinely wants to get back and fix this. Idk if I’m being stupid but I miss her too and seeing her messages and calls is f**king with my head. Please help.
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
Thordawgg − She doesn’t actually want to be with you as has as that is to take, her ego just can’t take someone else wanting you and taking attention away from her. Keep it no contact between the two of you and move on with your life
Lacunaethra − Now that other girls are playing with the toy she discarded, she suddenly wants it back. Keep her blocked.
vopo63 − Pal here is the manual:. 1. Open Whatsapp.. 2. Search said girl’s contact.. 3. Block her.. 4. Thank Reddit later.. She already rejected you.
SecondLeftRightHand − I have a feeling that you’ve already made up your mind to take her back and you just need our blessing to do so. But I don’t want to sugarcoat it. First, I think it was a mistake from you to go unannounced to her place and beg her to come back.
That gave her the idea that maybe she can go lack to you, after her cheating relationship failed. I don’t think she came back to you because she was sorry, I think she wanted you back because her affair didn’t turn into a real relationship, and your vulnerability gave her a way back in.
Second, stop blocking her, only to start talking to her again. Either get back together or forget about her. You’re only giving yourself unnecessary pain.
Last, you’re on Reddit, so don’t expect people to go past cheating so easily. I won’t. I know it hurts, but I still think you’re better off without her. Once a c**ater, always a c**ater. This would hunt your relationship forever.
spirited_imp − Are you suddenly okay with the fact that she cheated on you? And are you okay knowing that the other guy wasn’t as good as she thought so now she wants you back? What happens when the next interesting cute boy comes along?
blueeyedmom80 − She wants you back bc she’s probably lonely in the other guy probably turned out to be an ass .. she knows you’re the safe bet, sh will cheat on you again , do not get back together with her…
She hurt you and you will never ever trust her again, no matter what, there will always be doubt; is it worth it for your mental health to be with someone you won’t trust ever and always worry or wonder if she will or is cheating? I don’t think it’s a good idea. Find a girl who will love you and respect you always. There are lots of loyal woman out there. You will find her.
Morgan_W8 − Well she’s not blocked if she’s still calling you. You miss her, but can you honestly say you will never have doubts about her trust and infidelity again, or will that bitter feeling resurface in a week when you ask how many guys she slept with while you were apart?
No-Doubt9679 − I was in your shoes one time and I ended giving in and getting back with her. Worst decision I ever made. The relationship was never the same to me. I pretended it was and tried to do the things that made us happy before everything went down.
Deep down it was never the same and all I got for my effort was getting cheated on a second time lol. I wasn’t even mad at her just myself the second time.
That’s the day I learned to have more respect for myself. Not to put myself into stupid situations. Someone on here posted that the best thing for you is sometimes the hardest thing you’ll have to do. In this case walk away.
TacoStrong − So what if she wants you back? SHE DECIDED TO BETRAY YOU! How that alone is not enough for you to forget about her and leave her in the past is baffling! She will cheat on you again. Do not let a c**ater get the power in this.
And sending you videos of when she had her best good GF act on? My guy do not fall into her guilt trip that alone is more DECEIT. Wake up OP and stop talking to her!
Regular_Giraffe7022 − It’s not worth it. Cut all contact and move on. Find someone who actually respects you and isnt a c**ater.
Rebuilding trust after infidelity is incredibly challenging. Do you think it’s possible for them to start fresh, or is it better to move on completely? How would you approach this situation? Share your thoughts below!