I 25/M just sent my girlfriend 26/F a valentines day bouquet in december by accident. What can I say?

A 25-year-old man shares a somewhat embarrassing situation where he accidentally ordered a Valentine’s Day-themed bouquet for his girlfriend in December. The bouquet, complete with a stuffed bear and a card reading “Happy Valentine’s Day,” was meant to be a sweet surprise, but the mix-up has left him worried about how his girlfriend will react.

He’s unsure whether to explain the mistake before she opens the gift or play it off as a “just because” gesture. He’s looking for advice on how to handle the situation without seeming clueless.

‘ I 25/M just sent my girlfriend 26/F a valentines day bouquet in december by accident. What can I say?’

So, here’s the situation: I’m 25, and I’ve been dating my girlfriend, who’s 26, for about six months now. I wanted to do something nice for her today, so I decided to send her a bouquet of flowers. I thought it would be a sweet surprise, especially since we’ve been talking a lot about how nice it would be to be more thoughtful with surprises.

I ordered from a local florist, and everything seemed fine until after I placed the order. I noticed something weird in the confirmation email—the bouquet I’d chosen was Valentine’s Day-themed. It comes with a stuffed bear and a card that says “Happy Valentine’s Day.”

I didn’t catch it when I ordered, and now I feel like an idiot. I was hoping the florist might have changed it, but there’s no way to cancel or fix the order now. So, here I am, dreading what’s about to happen. I’ve literally put my phone on airplane mode because I’m terrified of the moment she texts me.

I can already picture her asking, “What the heck is this?” and I feel so embarrassed. This wasn’t supposed to be a Valentine’s Day gift—it was just supposed to be a sweet, random gesture. I don’t know if she’ll laugh it off or think I’m a total dork.

I don’t want to make this worse, but I also want to explain myself before she opens the gift. I’m just so worried she’ll think I’m trying to be overly dramatic or that I made some weird mistake.

What should I say to her when the bouquet arrives? Should I try to play it off as a “just because” gesture, or admit to the mix-up right away? And how do I make sure I don’t come off as some clueless guy who doesn’t know how to order flowers properly? Help!

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Mean_Environment4856 −  Dude. Take your phone off airplane mode and talk to her. It’s not the disaster your anxiety is telling you it is. She’ll just be stoked at the gift.

nuggiemum −  Tell her every day with her is Valentines Day. (Edit: Thanks for the awards!)

stemcella −  Man if she focuses on the fact it says Valentine’s Day and not the fact you got her flowers then you should really take a close look at her

L0veConnects −  When looking at our mistakes we need to ask ourselves, is this a glitch or a c**astrophe? The error you made was innocent, kinda cute and any woman I know would be tickled by a Valentines Day in December. How could she possibly take it any other way than my partner bought me flowers

Q_the_RU −  “So, funny story, I made a mistake…”

Prestigious-Pilot-41 −  For Christmas get her a birthday card and make it an ongoing joke for the rest of your relationship. It’s cute.

emptynest_nana −  My husband did this same thing years ago, in the first year of dating me. I was so tickled. When I asked him why Valentines at Halloween, he said I was his Valentine for life!!!

ZugTheMegasaurus −  Couldn’t you just call the florist and ask them to change it? It’s too late to cancel, but it’s possible they could just swap out the card, considering they’re aware it isn’t Valentine’s Day.

Piilootus −  Turn your phone off of airplane mode. Odds are she’ll think it’s funny. You could say that you were just so excited that you found the perfect gift with the flowers and teddy that you completely blanked on the card.

Next-Drummer-9280 −  My phone has been in airplane mode because I am afraid she will be like “what the f**k?”. I am worried how she will take it.
Good grief, dude, you are SERIOUSLY overreacting to a minor mistake.

Stop taking yourself so f**king seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself. If your relationship implodes because of a silly mix up, it wasn’t a good relationship to begin with.

How would you handle the situation if you were in his shoes? Should he come clean about the mix-up or try to turn it into an unexpected surprise? Share your thoughts on navigating awkward, yet well-intentioned, moments in relationships!