i (21F) caught my friend (21F) kissing my husbands (25M) neck while i was asleep.

A Reddit user (21F) is grappling with the discovery that her friend (21F) kissed her husband (25M) while she was asleep. After confronting both of them, her husband admitted to being caught off guard but insisted the kisses were meant as comfort due to their recent relationship issues.

The user feels conflicted about how to approach the situation, unsure whether to believe her husband’s explanation or to call it quits. Read the original story below.

‘ i (21F) caught my friend (21F) kissing my husbands (25M) neck while i was asleep.’

my husband and i have been married for 2 years, together for 3. this just happened about 5 hours ago and i’m not sure how to feel or what to believe. for context, my friend comes over to drink & hang out every once in a while and when she does we let her sleep in the guest room so she doesn’t drive home drunk.

last night we all decided to watch a movie in bed, i fell asleep after maybe an hour. at about 4am i felt them both move off of the bed so it woke me up. my husband said he went to go get water and my friend said she had to use the bathroom. after they got back onto the bed i was awake but with my eyes closed.

i noticed the movie got louder, and then i heard a kissing noise. i turn over slowly and i saw my friend caressing my husband from behind and giving him kisses on his neck while he watched the movie. once she realized i saw her, she froze, quickly moved her hands, and we stared at each other for a good 30 seconds.

eventually i asked her what was going on. she swore it was nothing and that nothing happened, my husband initially said the same. after about an hour and a half of asking for the truth he told me that he “didn’t know the kisses were for him” and that he “froze and didn’t know what to do”.

when i asked him why it took him so long to tell me the truth, he said it was because he was afraid of how my friend would react. i don’t know if i should believe him or not. she kissed him twice that i know of, and he has a history of lying to me. my friend was quiet the whole time i was trying to get the truth out of my husband.

eventually i told her to leave my house. she left, and my husband got upset at me for being mad at him for what happened. personally, i think that he shouldn’t have let it get to that point in the first place. he said she caught him by surprise, but eventually confessed that she first rubbed him on his back and told him “it’s okay”.

after that, she sat directly behind him, hugged him from behind, and started to kiss his neck multiple times. he said that she was probably just “comforting him” because she noticed he was upset because him and i have been having issues lately. i feel like they both have fault.

she was insanely wrong for doing that and he was wrong for letting her. i don’t know, he says im “f*cked up” for getting mad at him and not her (which is not true im mad at both of them.) i’m not sure how to go about this. part of me wants to call it quits but the other half of me feels bad for not believing him..

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

pacodefan −  People don’t usually get caught the first time it happens…. in your bed… right next to you. Far too blatant to be a first time thing.

East_Tangerine_4031 −  This is why you don’t get married at 19. Like he literally cheated on you right in front of him and you’re not done? lol I’m not sure what it would take then. There’s more to life than this. 

throwaway2161980 −  Girl. Your husband and your friend are having an affair. Point blank. He laid out every single cheap trick in the book. Stonewalling. Deflection. He was upset. And you’re falling for it?!?!

Do you know the level of AUDACITY it takes for your friend to start making out with your husband in the same bed as you? She would have NEVER tried that if they didn’t already have an established relationship.

SnooCauliflowers7220 −  I don’t think she’s your friend

Busy_Understanding81 −  I guarantee you this wasn’t the first time. They both got up came back and the movie got louder that is no coincidence in that. They thought you were sleeping and you messed up their plans.

BarberWild8752 −  The way I would have been like “ok. I’ll leave you two to it. I’m out. See you in court babe. See you never bestie”.

Historical-Pie-5052 −  Yeah, your husband and your friend are having an affair. He’s a s**tty husband and she’s a shittier friend.

UndercoverChef69 −  They’re f**king. All these times she comes over to drink and stay the night, your husband and her have s**. They might even be in love. 

QueenMother81 −  That’s not your friend and you caught them both

FragmentedFighter −  C’mon ma’am. You’re not this stupid, you know exactly what’s been happening. Your husband has been f**king your friend, and got comfortable enough to s**ew around right in front of you. Why did you even ask this, lol?

This situation is a painful reminder of the complexity of trust in relationships. Both the husband and the friend have crossed boundaries, leaving the Redditor uncertain about what to believe and what to do next.

Trust can be hard to rebuild, but it’s important to consider how actions, and the subsequent responses to them, shape the future of a relationship. What would you do in her shoes? Share your thoughts below.