I 20m snooped through my gfs 20f phone as I had a gut feeling about a coworker. How do I know if there’s something going on?
A Reddit user, 20M, confessed to snooping through his girlfriend’s (20F) phone after feeling suspicious about her relationship with a coworker. He found late-night calls and location sharing, which fueled his concerns.
When confronted, his girlfriend dismissed the accusations, claiming they’re just friends, but refused to share more messages. Now, the user is left questioning his actions, her intentions, and whether his suspicions are valid. Read the full story below for more context.
‘ I 20m snooped through my gfs 20f phone as I had a gut feeling about a coworker. How do I know if there’s something going on?’
So for context I had a gut feeling for awhile that my gf and her coworker were a bit too close. He is a 27m single. Tonight I finally snooped (yes I know, I broke her trust). I found firstly that she had called him at 2am last night as she was in a different city for a friends birthday dinner and was sleeping there.
From there I got really sus and went to her messages where I found she had temporarily shared her location and said something about them not meeting that night. I didn’t really want to scroll any higher as this hurt me enough.
I immediately woke her up and questioned her about it. She claimed they are just good friends (only known each other a couple months) and that we should talk about it in the morning. She also refused to show me any previous messages. So now I am awake pondering what to do or weather I’m just crazy.
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
trayC-lou − WHY o why did you not just scroll through it all….what’s the point in snooping if you’re not gonna snoop all the way to find out everything!!
Zooicide85 − Should have just looked at the rest of other messages. Too late now. I’m sure her sharing the location at 2 am and talking about when they would and wouldn’t meet up was totally innocent though. /s
TheRedComet1 − “Hey baby, I went thru your phone. You’re cheating on me.” Girl wakes up just to say lmfao we talk later, go back to sleep. How wild is that
Basilsainttsadface − You’re not crazy. She is g**lighting you. Your brain knows that. But your heart doesn’t want to listen. Listen to your head.
AdmirableSea2831 − Dude. She’s a c**ater. You’re young dont get hung up on that 0. Time to trade up.
CampaignTricky7510 − Sorry dude but at that point if she’s not willing to show you their other messages or explain why she did that then the relationship is over. You’re so young and you should honestly be glad she showed you her true colors and gave you a way out soon.
LuckyLuke1890 − A 02:00 call to a single guy is all the proof you need. If she met up with him, you may need to be tested for STDs
Electrical_Sun_7116 − lol she made plans with him to meet up in another city, contacted him at 2am and then refuses to clear her name. Anything that happens beyond this point is 100% your fault for being a gullible i**ot. Shes playing you like a fiddle.
AITA476510719 − In my opinion: The relationship is over. You distrusted her enough to where you snooped through her stuff, and then you found something. There’s no amount of explaining and communication, even if it was innocuous(which I very highly doubt) that’s going to prevent you from having the “what if” conversation in your head.
UnusualPotato1515 − Dude she’s cheating. Her refusing to show you messages shows that she’s hiding something and that something is her making plans to bang that guy, sorry.
Do you think the Redditor’s suspicions were warranted based on the late-night communication, or did he cross a line by snooping through her phone? How would you handle concerns about trust and boundaries in a relationship? Share your thoughts below and let us know how you’d approach this sensitive situation!