Haven’t heard from my boyfriend in 3 days
A Reddit user shared their distressing experience of not hearing from their boyfriend for three days, an unusual and worrying situation given their regular communication and recent positive interactions.
As anxiety builds with no way to reach him, they’re left to navigate the uncertainty and search for answers. Read the full story below to understand their plight.
‘ Haven’t heard from my boyfriend in 3 days ?’
30F haven’t heard from 34M in a couple of days. We’ve been dating for 6mos, and even though it’s still new, this is extremely uncharacteristic of him. We text all day long and have a few phone calls during the week.
We were talking about upcoming plans and some gifts he bought for me in our recent conversations. We’ve never gone a day without talking and haven’t gotten into any arguments or expressed needing space etc.
Even so, I know that he has enough respect for me to let me know if something came up. I don’t know his friends or family. He’s not active on the socials. I’ve been checking online constantly for obituaries, fatal crashes in the area, anything looking for some type of information.
I was calling his phone which was ringing the first day or so, but now it goes straight to voicemail which is concerning. I was hoping it was just a phone issue but after so many days, l’m beyond worried.
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
Carmelioz − 6 months and you’ve never been to his place?. The alarm bells are ringing, loud
Happy_Lingonberry_21 − He’s married and his wife caught him.
succulescence − I’m thinking he has a partner and a family. This is weird.
UtZChpS22 − I am sorry OP, but very often this behavior means that person is married/in a relationship. You’ve been together with this guy for 6months? So you are “exclusively dating”? Yet you know nothing about his friends, family, job, house,…. It doesn’t look good lovie. I hope there’s another explanation. UpdateMe
Jennipennypie − He might have ghosted you? I know you’re thinking “Nah he wouldn’t do that, things were fine” but I thought that too and it happened to me! I hope it is that rather than the unthinkable! Do you know where he lives or works? That would be the next step if you want to be certain.
444-clover − Not knowing where he works or lives after 6 months of dating is a huge red flag… I’m thinking he lives with a wife or girlfriend and his colleagues know his family. There is no way this separation was not intentional.
Normal people integrate each other pretty early on. He is hiding something and maybe it’s not worth finding out what. Sometimes you’re blessed to not know what you don’t know.
But after three days of silence, it’s safe to say the relationship is effectively over. Assume you’re single now and act accordingly, since you may never get the closure you’re looking for from him. I’m sorry this happened OP.
tu-BROOKE-ulosis − I hope he’s okay. And even if he is okay….please rethink this relationship. It’s been half a year and you don’t know where he works or lives or anyone connected to him. That’s not a sign of a real relationship.
sic_parvis_magna_ − Sounds like he was cheating with you
yours-unfaithfully − The fact he has kept so much of his life secret from you when you call him your boyfriend and have been in a relationship for 6 months, says to me he’s married and has gotten caught.
You mentioned in another comment that when you try to call his phone, it goes straight to voicemail. Sounds like he might have been using a burner phone? I’m sorry, OP. What an awful situation to be in, and one you likely won’t get closure for.
blackcatsneakattack − Ah, so his wife found his burner phone.
Do you think the Reddit user’s concerns are justified, or could there be a reasonable explanation for her boyfriend’s sudden silence? How would you approach such a situation if it happened to you? Share your thoughts below!