Going to confess my (23F) feelings to my long time friend (28M)

A 23-year-old woman shared her plan to confess her feelings to her 28-year-old long-time friend and crush of over two years. After grappling with her emotions and the fear of rejection, she has decided to take a leap of faith and express her love. While excited, she’s also battling anxiety and wonders whether to prepare her confession like a presentation or let it flow naturally.

‘ Going to confess my (23F) feelings to my long time friend (28M)’

We are friends for more than 2 years now and I have crush on him since very beginning. I was not really able to confess / flirt / ask him out at the very beginning so we became just friends. I really value or friendship but it is really hard for me since I was always looking for something more with him.

Lately I realized I cannot go with it any longer, I just have to try. I am really scared of r**ection but I understand now that even that might be beneficial in a long run. So yeah, I’ve asked him out today. I mean it is not that weird for us – we are spending time together on almost weekly basis.

This time will be different. I am ready to confess my feelings and I want to do this! I am still wondering on the details and how I want to do this but I have to do this – it is long overdue. I am trying to prepare for this like for some kind of public speaking or presentation but I do not know if it is a good approach.

Should I act spontaneously and not plan everything? Is there any good method to overcome anxiety? TLDR: Asked my long time friend and a crush out today and I am going to confess my feelings.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

HoneyBlue13 −  I would keep try to keep it somewhat casual if possible. Rather than saying “I’m in love with you” or something huge and sweeping like that, I would say “hey, I’ve really loved our friendship over the last two years, and for me I think it may have grown into something more. Lately I’ve had feelings for you and I wanted to have a conversation about that.”

And make sure that you do hold your boundaries if you need to if this doesn’t go the way we all hope it does (seriously rooting for you!). You aren’t a “bad guy” if he just wants to be friends and you don’t think you can handle just friendship. Take the time and space you need and don’t feel guilty if it comes to that.. Good luck! I hope it goes well.

Edit to add: keep in mind that he MIGHT need some time to process. If this has never crossed his mind before, he may not have a yes or no answer but might need a bit of time to think about it.

uncovered-history −  I would be clear, honest, and direct. Try not to over think it though. I think you should also figure out if he says no, what does that mean for you? Would you rather end the friendship? Can you squash your feelings. I definitely hope he says yes, but I think preparing for all options is helpful.

Norse-Ahoy −  If you guys are good friends then you probably communicate quite well. I would just wing it if it were me. Will sound and feel(for you) more genuine. Either he likes you back or he doesn’t; whether you stress or not will likely not effect the outcome.

Lego-sensei −  You do you…. Presentation sounds so cool. It’s about getting that weird parts connect- pun intended.