FINAL UPDATE: AITA for refusing to let my roommate’s boyfriend live with us after he tried to “test” me?
In a resolved update, a woman shares how she stood her ground when her roommate’s boyfriend, Jake, attempted to “test” her boundaries and overstayed his welcome. After confronting the issue with her landlord, Jake was banned from overnight stays due to lease violations.
This led to a pivotal moment where Ashley, her roommate, acknowledged the harm caused by Jake’s behavior. Ashley eventually broke up with Jake, recognizing his manipulative tendencies, and apologized for her actions. Now, the roommates are rebuilding their friendship and enjoying a peaceful, Jake-free home. read the original story below…
For those who haven’t read the original article : https://aita.pics/pEHyh
Anh Part 2 : https://aita.pics/ueQzZ
‘ FINAL UPDATE: AITA for refusing to let my roommate’s boyfriend live with us after he tried to “test” me?’
I wanted to come back with a final update now that everything has been resolved. It’s been a whirlwind, but I can finally say that I’m in a much better place—and I’m so grateful to everyone who supported me along the way. After my last update, I contacted the landlord and explained the situation.
Turns out, Jake had violated the guest policy in our lease by staying over so often. The landlord was understanding and firm: Jake couldn’t stay overnight anymore, and if Ashley wanted to add him to the lease, we’d need to renegotiate everything, including his share of the rent and utilities.
When I shared this with Ashley, she was furious at first. She accused me of trying to sabotage her relationship and even said I was acting “petty.” But as the reality of the situation set in, something shifted. I think for the first time, she saw how much Jake’s presence had disrupted our lives—and how much it had hurt me.
To my surprise, Ashley apologized. She admitted that she had been blinded by her feelings for Jake and hadn’t considered how unfair her actions were. She said she needed to reevaluate things with him and asked for some space to think.
Over the next week, Jake stopped coming over. Ashley and I had a long, heartfelt conversation, and for the first time in weeks, it felt like I was talking to my old friend again. She admitted that Jake’s controlling behavior wasn’t sitting right with her anymore and that she felt like she’d been losing herself trying to please him.
And here’s the best part: Ashley broke up with Jake. She realized he was m**ipulative and toxic, not just to me but to her as well. She thanked me for standing my ground and helping her see the situation clearly. We’re still working on rebuilding our friendship, but things feel so much lighter now that he’s out of the picture.
The apartment is peaceful again, and I’ve even started redecorating to make the space feel more like home. Ashley and I are taking things one day at a time, but we’ve both agreed to prioritize communication and respect moving forward.
I know not every story ends this way, but I’m so grateful mine did. Thank you to everyone who encouraged me to stand up for myself—it made all the difference. Without you I would be living in hell now.
Here’s the comments of Reddit users:
Brenno6991 − I clicked onto the profile to see the rest of the posts and was not ready for an OF lmao
EducationalRoyal3880 − I looked at your profile for the previous post and all I saw was a nsfw stream of small boobs , husband- stealing posts
omnomsx3 − Why do I doubt any of this is real?. **sees posts in OP’s profile**. Oh. That’s why.
McDuchess − Ew. Using a supposedly real story to drive your OF page? Not cool.
Diligent_Pride_7314 − With everything that’s happened in the last month and a half, it seems more and more like the 2020s are going to be an era of reckoning on incel men. Good to see Ashley picked the right moves and dumped his ass.
Edit: sorry for honest commenters, but as a wave of accounts who only post on a stock subreddit have come to both block my account but also post a sleuth of “no u” or “nah uh” comments, I’ll stop replying to this thread. However, to all those accounts (which I suspect are alters too) enjoy being incels in public.
IceBlue − Post is AI generated. OP is just trying to push her OF.
WickedStepmother42 − Check this person’s profile before you post any more. She’s an OF “creator” and is just looking for clients.
EducationalRoyal3880 − Hey OP, please drop these awful soft porn pics of you.. It’s sad and , well, yuk
Dwarfy3k − I’m glad to see some people here actually took the time to look at her profile and realise she’s just karma farming to make her OF have more traction. This is incredibly fake story and it’s sad so many people fell for it.
SnailsTails − The first post I thought this might have been real but now I understand it was just to get attention for your OF.
Have you ever had to stand your ground like this, even at the risk of upsetting friends? How do you think the OP handled this difficult situation? Share your thoughts below!