Dumped before Valentine’s Day

A Reddit user shares a heartbreaking experience—her boyfriend of seven years ended their relationship via text just minutes before Valentine’s Day, which also happens to be their anniversary. With no explanation and suddenly blocked on all platforms, she’s left feeling lost, heartbroken, and unsure how to get through the day. Seeking advice, she wonders how to survive the loneliness. Read the original story below…

‘ Dumped before Valentine’s Day’

So…. It’s 11:09pm on February 13th. Less than an hour until Valentine’s Day. And my boyfriend of 7 years, who I had big plans with for tomorrow, just texted me out of nowhere and said our relationship is over. No explanation, nothing. Then he blocked my number and all social media accounts.

Needless to say, I’m super confused and completely devastated. How am I supposed to survive Valentine’s Day? It’s always been our day. We’ve always done something big and extravagant because Valentine’s day is our anniversary.

And I just feel crushed. Some people have suggested I have a girls night, but I don’t have really any friends that live near me. And I really don’t want to have a night to myself, it just feels so cold and lonely. Any advice?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

rockbottomgeologist −  Girl, your edit is SUPER relevant to this situation!! He just ghosted the mother of his child?? somethings up. I don’t know what, but you and your son deserve so much better. If you happen to live near New Orleans, LA…. my girlfriends and I are getting dinner and margaritas tomorrow. First round on me 🙂

[Reddit User] −  I hate to even add this, but I’ve been with mine 7 years. 3 years ago he did the same exact s**t. Just left me with absolutely no explanation. But it was because he found someone else. Maybe he has been unfaithful..? Very painful thought.. I’m so sorry though, girl.

[Reddit User] −  You might want to go to r/legal_advice about your kid. Other than that, just try to distract yourself, but also take time to mourn. I’m really sorry this happened to you. What kind of monster could do that to someone

[Reddit User] −  I hate to say it, but it sounds like he’s having an affair. It seems like he has some other plans for Valentine’s Day. It’s possible that the other woman told him to break up with you before the 14th because maybe they had plans to go somewhere. Maybe he put it off until the last second and this is the result. Either way, I’m so sorry. What a fucked up a**hole.

Halloween_Queen1331 −  Many years ago I had plans on Valentine’s, I saw my boyfriend the night before and he told me he would come over after work. The next day, I didn’t get a single text. I waited all day. Valentine’s came and went. It ended up the night before after leaving my house, he went to a friend’s and left drunk, and ended up getting a DUI and spent the night & day in jail. I regret I spent the day sitting around.

If I were you, I’d get my favorite junk food, my favorite guilty magazines that I never read or whatever makes you happy, even buy yourself some new cute socks or pjs, new bath or shower gel/ soap and stay in for a stereotypical solo girl night in. If you like getting your nails done, go do that. If you like hanging out with your friends, go do that.

Anytime I’ve been dumped I see it as an opportunity to do things I never get to do and have a ME day. Fyi I’m married now and Valentine’s is a low key affair for me because I’m still pretty upset about that Valentine’s and don’t want to ever be disappointed again. I usually make a steak dinner at home so that I always know how the night will go, so don’t feel bad about lackluster plans.

kokopuffz1024 −  I’m soo sorry you’re going through this! There should be no reason for him to do that unless you guys have been having some kind of arguments or something that added to the break up

repsteven −  He’s going to regret ever doing that. That’s the worst way of breaking up. Sorry to hear and I hope you have a good valentines!

WombatHats −  I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, saying that’s rough is an understatement. About your son, if your kid is his too then he can’t just disappear like that. He still has to communicate enough with you to properly care for that child, he’s obligated. You should check out r/legaladvice to see what you should do about that.

As for tomorrow, if you don’t have friends close by but you don’t want to stay home alone, maybe you could see if there are any events going on in your area? Your local college might host a comedy night or you could go see a movie to get yourself out of the house.

If you don’t want to be around strangers, a cozy evening listening to a podcast that you like (having a few people chatting about books or food or comedy makes me feel less alone) or watching your favorite light-hearted movie with your fave snacks might be nice. Treat yo’self! You deserve it. Best of luck.

jet_lpsoldier −  If that’s biologically your kid and his, go after his ass for child support. For him to suddenly ghost and block you the day before valentines screams “cheating” I have a friend who did something similar. Dating one girl and wants to be with his ex.

wildeep_MacSound −  not that it’s super important to this specific situation. Yeah it is… that’s super important

Being blindsided by heartbreak is painful, but sometimes, losing someone who treats you this way is a blessing in disguise. How would you handle a breakup like this? Share your thoughts below.