AMITAH for not inviting my trump voting parents to my swearing-in ceremony?

A bisexual man recently passed the bar exam and is grappling with whether to invite his Trump-voting parents to his swearing-in ceremony. While his parents have been supportive of his achievements, their political choices—especially in the recent election—feel like a betrayal of his identity and values.

This conflict has left him torn between wanting to celebrate his milestone with them and the deep hurt he feels over their votes, which he perceives as against his interests and identity.

‘ AMITAH for not inviting my trump voting parents to my swearing-in ceremony ?’

I passed the bar exam in my state last week. After nearly seven years of work and suicide-inducing stress, I’m finally a lawyer. But I honestly want to jump off a building after these election results. I’m a bisexual man who voted blue down the line. Both of my parents voted trump.

I’m disgusted, ashamed, furious. I’m feeling emotions I have never felt before. I will be sworn-in at my state’s ceremony next week. My parents have been incredibly supportive and proud of my accomplishments throughout this process but quite honestly I can’t even look at them today.

They want to attend my ceremony, yet I feel so conflicted. Am I immaturely wanting to exclude them out of spite? To punish them for voting against their son’s interests? Perhaps. Will I regret my decision to exclude them in a decade or so when they are both gone? Maybe. I’m lost. Am I being a petty a**hole?

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Towlie_42069 −  They don’t even know I’m BI because they hoped Trump would “purge this country of faggots.” So you know….its not like we disagreed about his economic “concepts of a plan.” This right there. I seriously don’t understand how some people sleep at night. NTA. And if they ask why, be honest.

missgadfly −  I’m estranged from my dad because of his response to my bisexuality. If you don’t want them there, that’s totally okay. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

AdPurple3879 −  “I feel like I’ve been able to separate you loving me from the ideals and people that you vote for. But right now, those two situations cannot coincide in my mind and my heart when I know that you voted for people who will enact policies that harm myself as a woman and my son who has a chronic illness along with countless other people in my life that I love and care for.”

This was the text I sent my very white, conservative, “Christian” father yesterday morning. I put Christian in quotes because he’s not currently attending church because it’s “too woke” and he cherry picks what to follow. I’ve been in a panic about the ACA being repealed.

It’s not just the presidency it’s the fact that the republican party has the majority in the house, senate, supreme court, and presidential branches.

senditloud −  “As a lawyer I cannot have people who support a felon come to my swearing in ceremony. It would compromise my ideals. Btw I’m Bisexual. And about to make a s**t ton of money. See ya!” Fellow lawyer: yay for you! Use your power for good and also make money!. Edit: NTA! At all

Flimsy_Fee8449 −  I don’t know about your oath as a lawyer, but as military my oath is to “Protect and Defend the Constitution of the United States of America against all enemies both foreign and domestic.”

And yeah, people who support someone who actively tries to violate the Constitution will not ever be present at any ceremony involving my oath, and I will tell them why.

kaleidoscope_paradox −  It’s your accomplishment, not theirs. You do what feels right for you

beautifu_lmisery −  Congratulations! Contrary to some of these comments, I’m going NTA. You have every right to choose who you wish to be in attendance at the ceremony and if you don’t want your parents there because of their beliefs and who they voted for, that’s your prerogative.

celestial_cat_cecil −  I’ve been practicing a few years. Your swearing in day is not a lawyer day, it’s not a day of practice, you’re just starting on that path. Your swearing in day is the culmination of years of work. It’s a personal day, with professional tones.

Just ask yourself if you think you would regret not having them there when you look back on that day 10 years from now, and you’ll have your answer.

checkoutmywheeeppit −  Congratulations on passing the bar, friend

HoneyHarmony38 −  Congrats on passing the bar! It’s not petty to feel hurt by their political choices, especially when they impact you personally. If it feels too hard to have them at the ceremony, that’s okay. Just think about if this is a moment you might want to share with them in the future. Whatever you choose, do what feels right for you.

This is a tough situation where emotions run high due to the intersection of personal values and family dynamics. The question remains: is excluding his parents a justified stand or an act that could cause long-term regret? What do you think? Share your perspective below!