AITAH; My friend caught her husband jerking off to my pictures and wants me to tell him to stop?
A Redditor shares a tricky situation where her friend, Leigh, discovered her husband was looking at the Redditor’s Instagram pictures inappropriately. Leigh demanded that the Redditor confront her husband and tell him to stop, claiming it was her responsibility to “fix” the issue.
When the Redditor refused, Leigh blocked her and began spreading rumors. To clear her name, the Redditor posted her side of the story on Instagram, but now she’s facing backlash from some mutual friends who think she escalated the situation too far. Read the full story below.
‘ AITAH; My friend caught her husband jerking off to my pictures and wants me to tell him to stop?’
My friend Leigh (28F) caught her husband (30M) in his car, jerking off to my (27F) Instagram pictures. Obviously I’m icky about it too, but my friend is insisting I talk to her husband and tell him to stop, because I owe her. I don’t think this is my fault, nor is it my problem and told her as much.
She’s now blocked me and bad mouthing me to anyone who will listen. Leigh is saying I led her husband on, coming between their marriage and that I refuse to “fix” the problem. I posted my side of the mess on my Insta, basically telling everyone who follows me my side of the story to clear the air.
She says I’m dramatic and have taken it to a public level it didn’t need to get to. Most of our mutuals agree I had the right to defend myself, but there are others saying I went too far. I didn’t regret how I felt about it, or what I did, but the people saying I’m the TA for making it public, including a best friend Leigh and I share, are making me wonder if I actually am. So am I?
TLDR; friend’s husband gets off to my pictures. friend wants me to talk to her husband and make him stop. she started spreading gossip about me when I said no, so I cleared my name via insta post.
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
LaloTwins − Lmao NTA what in the hot hell. Woman’s just mad at her husband
Delicious_Tea3999 − NTA. She should never have even told you this. This is not your business whatsoever, this is between her and her gross husband. She brought you into it and made it public by discussing it with other people. Putting it on Insta is no different than going around and talking behind your back…except you actually had some integrity and let her see what you were saying with no middle person.
meadow_chef − What makes Leigh think her husband would listen to you?. NTA
Traditional_Crew6617 − This woman is just scared to say anything. So she wants you to do. i laughed my ass off when I read it. This is her issues. She needs to address it. Not you keep being a rock starr and shine bright and f**k her
[Reddit User] − NTA, and I hate how women blame each other for the shortcomings of their men. She literally caught him with his d in his hand and yet she wants to make you the villain. It unfortunately has nothing to do with you. She doesn’t want to admit to others or herself that her husband is a cheating c**ep and none of her friends are safe from him.
He’ll keep doing this until he really cheats, if he hasn’t already. Technically your ex friend is the one who took it public, and she shouldn’t have thrown stones from a glass house. The fact that she wanted you to confront her husband is irrational and kind of bizarre. It wouldn’t have helped. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. You didn’t do anything wrong.
[Reddit User] − Ummm. Why exactly doesn’t she have the balls to tell him to stop. Yeah it’s gross, but it’s not your fault that her husband is a c**ep
Honeyhwhite − Lol!! Well, if he’s stalking your insta, I guess you HAVE said something about it 😂😂 NTA, tell Leigh that “this is an iss-ue, not an iss-me”
ChadZowesStutJohn4k − The husband would no doubt love you scolding him and I wonder if the wife is in on it
DiscoveringMe2019 − Not your problem to manager her relationship
jfcmfer − I might’ve done as she asked but in a public place, with her, her husband and other friends. Burn it all!
Was the Redditor right to stand her ground and defend herself publicly, or should she have handled it differently? How would you navigate this difficult situation between friends? Share your thoughts below!
