AITAH My boyfriend thinks I shaved and I didn’t, he called me a l**r so I refuse to explain ?

A Redditor (27F) is caught in an argument with her boyfriend (31M) over her pubic hair. Her boyfriend, who prefers a “bush,” accuses her of shaving or trimming, despite her insistence that she hasn’t. The Redditor explains she has a habit of picking at her hair,

but when her boyfriend calls her a liar, she refuses to elaborate further, leaving him suspicious and upset. Now, she wonders if she’s in the wrong for not trying harder to clarify the misunderstanding. Read the original story below…

‘ AITAH My boyfriend thinks I shaved and I didn’t, he called me a l**r so I refuse to explain ?’

So I know this may sound a little unhinged but to make a long story short I (27 F) am dating a guy (31 M) who has a preference for a “bush” down there if you know what I mean lol and he’s expressed that to me.

I have no issue with that but the only thing is I have a problem with picking at my pubic hair (I know weird) anyways he’s convinced that so much hair has shed that I’ve “shaved” or “cut” my hair which I didn’t. Upon asking me about it he says “why did you shave down there?

” I said “I didn’t” he immediately “why are you lying” so I persisted that I’m NOT lying to which he INSIST that I am !? At that point I’m just like hey believe whatever you want ! AITAH because now he thinks I’m maybe cheating or hiding something all because of this.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

JMarie113 −  He sounds creepy and insecure. 

missytenn −  Reminded me of this guy I dated who “prefer” bush down there. I usually shave but decided I’ll keep them for him. But when summer came, I hated it. So I shaved them all.

I wasn’t expecting him to make a big deal over this but he got real mad when he found out and started accusing me of cheating. So yeah, he basically wanted me to keep the bush, so that he can feel secure about me not cheating with my jungle down there apparently lol

CreepWalk13 −  If that’s all it takes for him to think you are lying, just leave. He thinks you’re cheating bc of it, sounds like projection to me.

SnooFoxes526 −  I had a boyfriend like that, and it was the worst year of my life. I didn’t realize it at the time because I thought I was in love and that I could change him. They don’t change, honey. It just gets worse. He’s just super insecure and that is not changing.

If this is what you wanna deal with with the rest of your life, that’s your choice, but I wouldn’t wanna be dealing with someone nagging at me about my pubic hair…

ContentMembership481 −  He is allowed to have a preference, but he is NOT allowed to enforce it in any way. Don’t put up with it. And he is certainly not allowed to call you a l**r about it! D**p him if you have to.

Sencifouy −  I have a problem with picking at my pubic hair. Tell him that? Might be an OCD thing? That said, NTA and kind of a d**k move from him. You do whatever you damn please with whichever hair you happen to have !

Voyayer2022-2025 −  Wouldn’t it be easier if you just told him what you do? Less drama

Imaginary_Chair_6958 −  Presumably he knows what a shaved area looks like. And yours does not look like that. i.e. a bit red and completely hairless. Unless you’ve plucked out every single hair. But a relationship between a bush fan and a pubic hair picker seems doomed to fail.

CommercialWatch5102 −  Why don’t you just explain to him you pick at your hair? IDK if you feel ashamed/shy or whatever but you should be open with him if you want this relationship to last. I’d also think my bf is lying if I see a change to his physical appearance, asked a question and he denied, and he wouldn’t tell me why his appearance changed

Open-Road2225 −  Ok but wait. pulling out your own pubic hair is not something that a normal person would think is happening, he sees that there’s less hair down there and and since she’s saying she didn’t shave he thinks she’s g**lighting him so while his methods are suspect I do think we need to cut him a bit of Slack.

Do you think the Redditor should have explained her habit more openly, or was her boyfriend unreasonable for insisting she was lying? How would you handle such a personal and awkward misunderstanding in a relationship? Share your thoughts below!