Aitah for telling my friend the real reason I rejected her?

A Reddit user (33M) is a single dad who has been raising his 6-year-old daughter alone after her mother’s passing. While he often helps his sister, Claire (35F), by babysitting her three kids, he recently refused when she requested a last-minute weekend of childcare, as he had already planned a special daddy-daughter weekend.

Claire responded by saying he should be willing to help because she has “real responsibilities” with three kids, while he “only” has one child. Hurt by her dismissive comments, he told her he wouldn’t babysit if she doesn’t respect his parenting role.

Now, Claire is upset, and even their mom is urging him to apologize. Is he in the wrong? Read the original story below for more details.

‘ Aitah for telling my friend the real reason I rejected her?’

I 25 male have been friends with Denise 24 female for about 12 years you probably know where this is going i had a crush on her until last year. I asked her out and she said no but her actual response was: “ You’ll be my backup plan when things don’t work out..

Ouch. I mean was i hurt when she said that but I moved on and focused on me even though me and her still cool with each other i separated myself from the equation now fast forward yesterday and you can probably guess what happened she wants to date and I point blank said no and she got pissed and asked why.

My response: Denise you point blank called me your backup plan as in if I can’t get a man i like I’ll give you a chance Calling any man your backup plan to his face will get you ignored i was taught to not be anyones backup plan. Now Im blocked. So AITAH ?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

[Reddit User] −  The trash took itself out lol, be happy that it was this easy.. NTA.

CultureContent8525 −  NTA, you can block her back, so when the time comes that she unblocks you she will remember and she will not disturb you anymore.

Briiiiiiyonce −  NTA obviously.

AwaySecret6609 −  NTA. You should value yourself. She saw you as a safety blanket and not a real person

BlindUmpBob −  NTA. “Oh, you mean the mean thing I said to a while back has consequences?”. Who knew the world works that way?

Samwry −  NTA. It is rare for a woman to admit that you are being kept in the bullpen. At least she was honest. But it is a story as old as time. She had her shot and blew it. You made the right call. Hold your head up with pride.

Jokester_316 −  NTA, but instead, you should have told her that you’re enjoying a few FWB. You’ll keep her in mind if they don’t work out. Lol.

tokoroth −  definitely YTA because she’s an available women and you were single just joking, she’s for the streets.

LitllePrincess −  NTA, backup plans are for phones, not relationships.

DetroitSmash-8701 −  Getting blocked is the trash taking itself out. Good riddance to bad rubbish.