AITAH For Telling My Friend “Next time then.” After I missed Her Wedding?

A Reddit user accidentally offended his childhood friend when he tried to make light of missing her wedding due to illness. While under heavy medication, he joked that he wouldn’t miss her “next one,” which left her upset and caused a rift. Read the story below to find out more about what happened and if he was truly in the wrong.

‘ AITAH For Telling My Friend “Next time then.” After I missed Her Wedding?’

We are childhood friends. We have a brother sister relationship. This gal married at age 23 for the first time. Her husband was a nice guy. Good looking, good character… They got a divorce 1,5 years after because my dear friend wasn’t feeling it anymore.

After some time she found someone else (no she wasn’t cheating) this guy is someone I approve of too. Sadly I got sick and hospitalised just before the wedding and couldn’t make it so she and her husband visited me.

We had some laughs and she said:” I wish you were there with us too. I wanted to have my 3rd dance with you.” (context: 1st dance is for the groom, 2nd for the father and 3rd is for the brother if bride has any)

To lighten the mood, I blurted out:” Don’t worry. I won’t miss the next one.”. After I said her husband was laughing on and she slapped me and left. A week has passed and she doesn’t speak to me…

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Dipshitistan −  I’m gonna give you a pass because 1) you were medicated and 2) it’s a funny line.

PoppysMelody −  “I was on a lot of pain killers and was trying to make you laugh. I am sorry I made light of your feelings. I also really wanted to be there.”
NTA. That was diabolically funny. Also that guy laughing may have signed her up for number 3 😂😂😂

thejackalreborn −  It’s not the nicest joke but she definitely overreacted, to slap someone who is currently hospitalised is crazy.

lilhappypumpkin1020 −  NTA it was funny. She slapped you. That is not ok everyone is kinda glossing over that. I would count that friendship over if it was me. No matter how insulted you may feel hitting someone is wrong.

You were heavily medicated and recovering she should be thankful you or the hospital dont press charges. Taking into account the staff didn’t see what happened and report it. 

Couch_Captain75 −  Your intent may not have been bad but joking about a new marriage or a new kid will ALWAYS be a bad idea.

Dashqu −  Whatever happened to “its not a joke unless everyone is laughing” ? You made a joke at her expense, she didnt think it was funny. That means you owe her an appology. Do i think she overreacted? Hell yes. Do i think your joke was funny? Also yes. But my feelings didnt get hurt, hers did.

So you have to decide whether or not this friendship is important to you or not. If yes, appologise, if not, then find friends who dont get physical when upset.
I cant decide between e s h and n a h, so no verdict from me.

Salty_Confidence1880 −  NTA but your friend is. She should’ve never of touched you like that. You were medicated and her husband laughed at it which means he read the room right. Shes just salty and honestly, i wouldnt be friends with someone who would a**ault me like that over nothing.

HuffN_puffN −  It’s fine. That’s a very PG joke to me, very much so. And it’s not like it was her 5th wedding.

lookingformiles −  Lol. I mean, I’M not offended but it sure sounds like your friend might be. And when you offend your friend – intentionally or not – you should probably apologize. Unless of course you think you did nothing wrong.

If you think you did nothing wrong and don’t apologize, YTA, albeit a funny one. If you acknowledge that you hurt your friend’s feelings – even though it wasn’t intentional – and apologize, NTA.

shalashaska68 −  NTA, not the nicest joke you could have came up with, but damn she goes from zero to 100 pretty quick. IMO slap is reserved for the harshest of comebacks, and she added a 2x multiplier lol.

If you really want to salvage the relationship, apologize for being insensitive under the f**king influence of heavy medications, but she has to at least show some form of regret or remorse in order to get past this.