AITAH for staying with a girl who was passed out?

A Redditor shared their story of staying with a passed-out girl outside a bar to ensure her safety, despite their date (Molly) and her cousin pressuring them to leave. After Molly and the cousin abandoned them, the user contacted the girl’s mother, who came to pick her up.

However, Molly later blew up their phone with angry messages, accusing them of ruining the night. Read the full story below to decide if their actions were justified.

‘ AITAH for staying with a girl who was passed out? ‘

I (22m) went out with friends and with a girl that I’m currently talking to Molly (23f) we are in the talking stage for about 3 weeks now
We went to this bar we drank and sat there for hours but we all decided to go to this one guys house so we can continue drinking over there because there was some sort of party going on there.

We came in 2 separate cars the one I was in had me Molly and the driver her cousin. As we were leaving molly and her cousin saw someone at the bar that they know and told the ones who came in the first car to leave.

And that we will catch up with them soon I went over to Molly and her cousin and introduced myself to the guy they were speaking to not long I felt excluded and didn’t know what they were even talking about I just told them i will wait outside.

Well Outside on a bench there was a girl knocked out cold her purse was on the floor she was laying there with her phone in her hand I went over to check on her to see if she was okay it looked like she passed out because she had too much to drink I could smell the booze on her.

Molly and her cousin come out and said it’s time to head out I told them there is this girl here she’s passed out molly said “so what she will be fine” i told her she’s fine now but anything could happen if we leave her here like this at night she could get SA’d, robbed or even kidnapped.

Molly wasn’t having it and so was her cousin they told me she will be fine her friends are probably in the bar and they will take her soon so I quickly went into the bar and asked around if anyone knew the girl outside and described what she looks like I went outside

and told them no one knows her at this point they were visibly annoyed with me and told me to leave her and that I don’t know her. The cousin started the car and said I’m leaving right now with or without you and molly got into the car and said “what’s it going to be?”

I said nothing then molly starting yelling at me saying I’m ruining the night for everyone followed up with some more yelling and the cousin straight up hit the gas and left.

Went over to check on the girl and grabbed her purse and phone went back to the bar tried to talk to the bar manager he wasn’t there I asked the staff if we could possibly bring her in they said they can’t do that.

I went outside to the bench I tried waking her up but she was reluctant I couldn’t hear a word she was saying I tried to see if her iphone was locked and it was.. I have an android it took me about 5 minutes to realize I could use her fingerprints to unlock the phone so I did..

Went to contacts and saw “Mom” and decided to call her she picked up and I told her about the current situation she said she was on the way and that I could kindly not leave her daughters sight untill she arrived.

I waited for 15 minutes as I was waiting molly was texting me angry messages and asking if i liked the girl or something and how I ruined her night.

The mom came we got her into the car she thanked me her dad was there too he thanked me as well they offered to take me home I declined and ended up taking a Uber. Molly kept blowing up my phone When I eventually got home.. AITAH?

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

dedoktersassistente −  If I was ‘talking to’ a guy who did this I would consider it a major green flag. I always look at how they treat other people.

That girl and her parents were so fortunate that you had your priorities straight and followed through. The fact that anyone could leave a person so vulnerable alone and risk their health and safety is very concerning.

WebInformal9558 −  Sounds like you did the decent thing. NTA.

SnooShortcuts539 −  110% NTA. Never lose that part of you that cares for people, even people you don’t know. Molly and her cousin sound like terrible people; far below the level of company someone like you deserves to keep.

Street-Cake387 −  10000% NTA Infact a gentleman. Any girl worth their weight would have helped you with the passed out girl. What you did was very kind. I’d ditch mollie she sounds like a r** bag

Winter_Parsley_3798 −  If my husband had done that I would have shagged him the second we got home. Having morals and sticking by them to care for a vulnerable stranger is attractive af.

Your girlfriend is pathetic, jealous over a girl drunk into unconsciousness. She should think more about what she would want if she was in that girls shoes. Nta, good job, you’re a decent person! 

kuxika420 −  Molly and her Cousin are the Assholes. Really glad you were able to assist the drunk girl.

Equivalent-Bee6501 −  NTA. You know you did the right thing. She sounds awfull, I wouldn’t keep talking to her if I were you.

vron987 −  THANK YOU. You literally might have saved her life. She is so so lucky that you were the man who found her. Thank you. Always do this!! Everyone!!

Molly kinda sucks as a person, there are a lot of women who see what an amazing thing you did, and who would do the same. Me included. You are a great person

theophilustheway −  I really hope Molly felt differently the next day when she sobered up. If she did, keep in mind she is unreasonable when drinking. If she didn’t, then yikes!. I think you dodged a bullet.

ZippyKoala −  If Molly had the sense that God gave sheep, she’d realise that a guy who cares about drunk strangers and looks out for them selflessly is a guy you’d want to hang onto because they’ll treat you with compassion too. NTA, and I personally wouldn’t be going any further than talking with Molly.

Was the Reddit user right to prioritize a stranger’s safety over their date’s demands, or should they have respected Molly’s wishes to leave? How would you handle such a situation? Share your thoughts and opinions in the comments below!