AITAH for snapping at my wife and calling her crazy because she wants me to take a paternity test for my nephew?

A man, who has been childfree with his wife for 10 years, has a close bond with his 13-year-old nephew, who resembles him. After family members and his sister joked about the resemblance, his wife grew insecure and asked for a paternity test to confirm he isn’t the father.

Frustrated, he snapped, calling her “crazy” and admitting his reaction may have been harsh. read the original story below…

‘ AITAH for snapping at my wife and calling her crazy because she wants me to take a paternity test for my nephew?’

Throwaway account for obvious reasons. My wife and I have been married for 10 years and together for 14. We are childfree. I also have a nephew who’s currently 13, and I’m not going to lie, he looks a lot like me and has a lot of the same facial features as me.

I am really proud of him and we have a close bond. I have played a father like role in his life since he was a kid. He has a deadbeat father, and my sister divorced him long ago.

A couple of my family members have commented on how my nephew looks a lot like me, and while I initially thought it was wholesome, my wife for some reason became very insecure and started getting doubts.

She was questioning why I needed to play such a prominent role in my nephew’s life, why my nephew had autism etc. The insinuations just became weird and made me uncomfortable. I do agree that my sister has played some part in my wife’s insecurities because of her dry humor.

During family gatherings, my sister jokes a lot about how wholesome it is that her son looks like me, and that she couldn’t be happier.  It’s obviously a joke, but I spoke to my sister and asked if she could tone it down a bit because it was making my wife a bit crazy.

However, last night, my wife asked if I could take a paternity test just for her peace of mind. That’s when I finally snapped and called her crazy and that marrying her was the biggest mistake of my life. I did immediately regret saying it because I meant none of it, my wife is the love of my life. But my wife got quiet, and started crying shortly after and I had to console her.. Was I the AH?

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Beginning-Lemon-4607 −  Your wife’s new homework is Punnett squares . 

Harvard_Diplomat −  She thinks you had a baby with your own sister? Not your brother’s wife or anything but your own sister? No, that IS crazy.

LetsGetsThisPartyOn −  NTA Of course he has your genes FROM YOUR SISTER!. Not from you!. Jesus.. Send her to a biology class

BeachinLife1 −  Sorry, but someone accuses me of sleeping with my sibling, I’m gonna say some kinda something to them. It won’t be pretty. She doesn’t get to cry and act like she did nothing wrong. NTA, and love-of-your-life or not, your wife thinks you slept with your sister. How do you come back from that?

Longwinded_Ogre −  It’s ok to be mad when someone you love and trust accuses you of sleeping with your sister. NTA.. You said some harsh stuff.. She deserves some harsh stuff.

anivarcam −  Wait, WHAT ? So your wife is insinuating not only that you had s** with your sister, but that you fathered a child with her ?! Omg. I would also snap if my partner’s mind was so f**king twisted. Has the wife ever heard of GENETICS ?

You should divorce her solely on the grounds of stupidity, but demanding a paternity test is an indication that she thinks you are capable of the unthinkable. NTA.

doug5209 −  NTA, buy her a book on basic genetics. It’s insulting to imply you would sleep with your sister.

ZookeepergameCheap89 −  NTA she’s accusing you of banging your sister. That’s just n**ty 🤮

CaptainBeefy79 −  So, your biological nephew looks like you? Any chance that could have anything to do with shared biology? My oldest looks exactly like his moms side of the family who live on the other side of the country and who hadn’t been around us for several years leading up to his conception, but maybe I should have FIL/BIL tested just to be sure because his genetics definitely couldn’t have come from his mother. FFS, NTA 🤦‍♂️

Both-Star-8003 −  NTA. Does your wife have mental problems? Like seriously? No s**t your biological nephew looks like you. Thats an INSANE accusation on her part & you have every right to be offended by it. Im a little confused on your sister’s jokes though? Whats the joke? Is she just meaning shes happy he doesn’t look like the deadbeat?

Was his reaction understandable, or should he have handled it differently? Share your thoughts below!