AITAH for “snapping” at my GF?
A Reddit user shares their experience of a frustrating moment while driving with their girlfriend. During a long drive, she urgently needs to use the bathroom, prompting the user to stop at a nearby petrol station, only to discover that the toilets are out of order.
When the girlfriend questions why she can’t use the toilet anyway and asks about alternatives, the user, feeling annoyed, snaps back with a pointed question.
This leads to tension between them as she becomes upset. Read the original story below to see how communication and frustration can impact relationships during stressful situations.
‘ AITAH for “snapping” at my GF?’
I (32M) was driving with my (32F) GF next to me. While driving on the motorway she said she was desperate for the toilet and asked if I could pull over at next available stop where they have a toilet. I said that’s fine and a few mins later I saw a petrol station that I know has a public toilet.
If was raining heavy so her being her, she wanted me to go open the toilet door first so she could run in without stopping. Anyway, I got to the toilet and saw a maintenance sign, so I went back into the car and said “toilets out of use so we will go to McDonald’s”
She then said “oh, why can’t I use it?” I said it’s got a sign that says “out of use”. She said “so I can’t just go and use it?”. I said “no”.
She said “did you check for another toilet?” I said “ive been to that petrol station a 1000 times so I know for a fact that’s their only one”
She said “so they don’t have any alternative?” I said “no, but we’re heading to McDonald’s which is just a minute away”. She said “so, why couldn’t I have just used the toilet at the petrol station?”
At this point I was slightly annoyed by all the questioning and said “which part of it’s out of use, don’t you understand?” She then got upset and whilst I felt bad, it felt like the only question I could ask her in order for her to understand the situation. So AITAH?
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
AdPrestigious839 − U sure she ain’t 6?
LookingForHope87 − NTA, imo. Seriously, what part of “out of use” was so hard to understand?
PersephoneTheOG − NTA. She sounds annoying, and I abhor people who ask the same question in different ways when it was answered the first time. I’m also questioning why she needs you to open the door for her? Do her hands not work?
of_gold_ − NTA. She sounds insufferable.
Ok_Purple766 − It’s also wild to “make you go first to open the door so she can run straight in”. Wouldn’t sitting there waiting for you to go there and come back actually take longer????
Hungry-Afternoon7987 − Nta. What a princess. You’ve to get out and open the door for her?
doyoulikethisone − Are you dating a toddler? She sounds exhausting.
GreenSuccessful7642 − NTA and how the f**k do you stand her
The-Wise-Weasel − NTA———-I am married to one of those. RUN. NOW. I could tell her 8 ways from Sunday the bathroom is out of use…… and she’d insist she has to use it….and to go ask for the key, and tell them it’s an emergency…………blah blah blah…………..
But if a total effing stranger came up to her and said it’s out of order…….she’d be like, “Oh, okay” ……and walk away.. G**lighting at it’s finest.
OrangyOgre − Are you sure she is 32? Sounds like a 8 year old b**t.
Do you think the user was justified in their frustration given the circumstances, or did they overreact in their response to their girlfriend? How would you handle a similar situation where communication breaks down under stress? Share your thoughts below!
