AITAH For Reporting My Mom And Sister After Blaming Me For Stealing Nearly $11k?

A Reddit user, a 19-year-old woman, shared a troubling situation where her mother and sister have been stealing from her college fund, totaling nearly $11,000. Despite working hard to save the money, she discovered that her family had been making large, unauthorized purchases and then blamed her for the theft. After confronting them and getting nowhere, she decided to take legal action. Read the full story below for more details on this distressing situation.

‘ AITAH For Reporting My Mom And Sister After Blaming Me For Stealing Nearly $11k?’

Me, 19F have been having issues with my mother and sister. My mother 57, and older sister 28, have been stealing from my college fund for a few months now and blame me for the stolen money. I’ve been work summer jobs since i was 15 to pay for college tuition. I keep it in a savings account which my mom insists she handles.

I didn’t think it was that bad until i kept getting emails from my bank about large purchases I definitely did not make. I thought someone may have gotten into my account so i disabled my card. It thought i would be okay until my mom asked me why I disabled my card. I was confused since i never told her so i asked her about it.

It immediately hit her that she had ratted herself out. She stated that the money I had earned was to much for me and that her and my sister needed it more. Though our family has been tight on money all they’ve bought are designer clothes and purses.

I finally took them to court when my mom blamed me for letting her handle the account and that they needed it more than i did. Victimizing herself as always. I keep trying but i seem to be getting nowhere. Our next trip to court is in 18 days. What should i do? Also FYI the account was made when i was around 15 so i didn’t have much control over it at the time.

Heres the input from the Reddit crowd:

Bargle-Nawdle-Zouss −  51M here.

1. Continue to press your case in court.
2. **IMMEDIATELY** go to another bank – not the same company as your current institution – and open new checking and savings accounts, solely in your own name. Now that you’re over 18, you do not need to have a parent/guardian joint on the account. When setting up your debit card PIN, make sure you use a completely new number.
3. Go to both [creditkarma.com](http://creditkarma.com) and [experian.com](http://experian.com) and “lock” your credit. This ensures that no new debt products, including and especially credit cards, can be opened in your name.
4. Collect all your vital documents, including driver’s license, passport, birth certificate, and Social Security Card, and put them in a secure location of your choosing, inaccessible to your mother and sister.

With all due respect, your mother is a t**ef. You need to move out into your own independent living space ASAP. And as soon as you’re settled in your new home, you need to go Low or No Contact with these lying thieves.

Please post an update when the dust settles from the court case and your change of living arrangements. Punish them, OP! Make those charges stick, then cut these abusers out of your life.. NTA. UpdateMe!

Vivid-Huckleberry448 −  NTA. You worked hard for your college fund, and it’s not fair for them to steal from you and then blame you for it. I think you did the right thing by taking action.

disercaffeinity −  Stay strong and let the legal process work out it’s tough, but necessary.

Extension-Sun7 −  NTA. She’s so m**ipulative and is g**lighting you. If you let her get away with this, she’ll say it was because you were lying. I know the type well. You’re doing the right thing. They need to be held accountable so they don’t do it to anyone else.

[Reddit User] −  NTA and make sure you check to see if she’s opened any credit cards in your name. Lock it down, unfortunately I heard of stuff like this more than once. 

lilmanfromtheD −  If the account is strictly in your name, it would be illegal for them to access it – you can press charges and take them to court. If you have that account opened as a shared account with your mother – your legal grounds on that won’t be good.

Collect evidence of what they used to purchase with the funds, this should easy e to do as you will have a record of where the transactions were. You will also be able to show that you worked and contributed those funds, that was your money. They could have been homeless and dying, but that’s still your money and they have no right – no matter the need for it.

nvrhsot −  Go scorched Earth.. It’s always the same issue. Those who are lazy and e**itled look upon those who are hard working and financially responsible with disdain.. Go hard on them. Never let any family have access to your finances again.. Go get ’em!. 1000% NTA.

mcmurrml −  Move all your money and accounts to a completely different bank or credit union. Do that immediately. Today check your credit report to see if they have opened accounts in your name.

Kittytigris −  NTA, they knew what they did. Keep pressing charges, nothing to feel guilty about. They got greedy and got caught so now they’re trying to shift blame. They’re not even sorry for the theft so there’s no need for you to feel guilty about pressing charges. Keep reminding yourself if they didn’t steal, you wouldn’t have had to press charges in the first place.

chuckinhoutex −  NTA- tell your mom to try her line of b**lshit on the judge.

Do you think the user was right to take legal action against her family, or should she have handled the situation differently? How would you respond if someone close to you stole money you had worked hard to save? Share your thoughts below!