AITAH for removing my son and grandson from my will after he assaulted me?

A 64-year-old Reddit user is facing a family dispute after a motorcycle accident involving his grandson, which led to his son and daughter-in-law cutting contact with him. The user took his grandson on a ride, and although he ensured proper safety gear, the grandson broke his arm in the accident.

After the event, his son slapped him in anger, and the family ignored him for months. Things escalated when his grandson rejected a birthday gift, and the family sent a threatening note. Feeling betrayed, the user removed his son, daughter-in-law, and grandson from his will,

redirecting his savings to charity and setting aside a small sum for his grandson’s future college. His family is now angry, claiming he’s punishing them for an accident. The user is wondering if he’s in the wrong for making this decision.

‘ AITAH for removing my son and grandson from my will after he assaulted me? ?’

I’m a 64-year-old who likes to stay fit and loves riding motorcycles.This incident happened in January this year. My son, his wife, and my grandson were visiting. My grandson(11) wanted to go for a ride on my bike. I made sure he wore proper safety gear before we went out. Unfortunately, we were rear-ended in an accident.

I got out unscathed, but my grandson broke his arm. To say I was devastated would’ve been an understatement. I let the driver run because I needed to take my grandson to the hospital. The cops were called, and the driver responsible was arrested.

At the hospital, my son and his wife rushed straight to my grandson, ignoring me entirely. When we got back home, I tried to talk to my son, but he slapped me across the face and told me they were never coming back.

I was very hurt, but genuinely believed there had been an misunderstanding and forgave him as I understood he was distressed. Over the months, I sent multiple apology letters and tried to contact them, but they ignored me. On November 3rd, my grandson’s birthday, I sent him a LEGO set.

Later, my son called, saying my grandson wanted to talk to me. I was very happy and answered the call, only to hear my grandson say he hated me and to “go f**k off old man.” A week later, the LEGO set was returned, smashed to pieces, with a note saying that if I ever tried contacting them again,

I’d meet the same fate as the Legos and they were going completely no-contact. Something broke in me. Since I couldn’t do anything else, I decided to change my will. I removed my son, daughter-in-law, and grandson.

I drafted a new will, stating that if I die right now, all my savings, assets, and life insurance—totaling $400,000 to $500,000—would go to donations for old age homes and orphanages. I did set aside $50,000 for my grandson’s future college expenses, but he’ll only receive it when he’s 21.

I had the will written up by my lawyer and signed it in presence of witnesses. Recently, my daughter-in-law’s father (a lawyer) must have found out. My daughter-in-law called me, saying I was wrong for punishing them since the accident was my fault.

She also said they’d only allow supervised visits with my grandson if I wanted a relationship with him. I told her I’m old, not a fool, and reminded her that they were the ones who went no-contact. I told her not to contact me again and blocked her. My son and grandson both keep calling me, but I’m not picking up. Gold diggers.

I genuinely wanted a relationship with my grandson, but I refuse to spend my twilight groveling for scraps of their approval. I’m done. So this is the drama right now, and as I don’t have anyone close, I’d like to take Reddit’s advice.. AITAH?

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

big_girl11 −  Definitely NTA. Your son and daughter-in-law are completely in the wrong for treating you with such disrespect and refusing to have a relationship with you.

It’s your choice how you want to distribute your assets and it sounds like you have good intentions for donating to charitable causes. Your grandson’s behavior only reflects the poor parenting he has received from your son and daughter-in-law. Stay strong and don’t let them manipulate you.

RenaH80 −  I’m still stuck on how they found out about the will. That makes no sense. Regardless, you can leave anything you want to anyone you want. NTA for changing your will…. But I think there are other factors not shared

NatashOverWorld −  Did they hate you or something before this? You were rear-ended, and the offending driver arrested, but we can say emotions were running high.

But going NC and teaching the kid to hate you months later 🤔 Kinda fucked up. And only relenting when you changed your will? Something is very wrong with that relationship, even before the accident.. NTA

arodomus −  NTA. Remind them what they said about the Legos. I wouldn’t even leave him college money, “f**k off old man.”

Minute-Telephone7125 −  NTAH. The baguette of consequence rarely arrives buttered. They choose to blame you, a**ault you, and cut you out. Did they honestly think you would just leave your estate to people who treated you like that??

Not the a**hole – and everyone here saying “Buuuut… (herp derp derp drrrrpP)..” can f**k right off. You got cut out of what matters. They’re only getting cut off from a lump of cold cash in righteous response.. N.T.A.H.

No_Jaguar67 −  NTA s**ew those ingrates. Let the grandson figure out his own college. They want a relationship now? How gross are they? “Sure, I’d love a supervised visit with my grandson but I’m not changing the will. Shall we meet for tea at the weekend?”

stormsway_ −  INFO: Did your son give permission to take your grandson on the bike?

Skybeam420 −  NTA. If you were rear-ended, it sounds like the accident wasn’t your fault. The way your grandson was angry when he phoned you, he must be blaming you for the accident.

Competitive_Fee_5829 −  NTA dont give that ungrateful family a damn thing.

leilakirschke −  NTA. You’ve been disrespected and hurt by your son and grandson, and it’s understandable that you want to protect yourself. You’ve tried to reach out, but they’ve chosen to shut you out. It’s your life and your choice.

Do you think the user’s decision to change his will and cut off his family was justified, or was it an overreaction to a difficult situation? How would you handle a similar betrayal from family? Share your thoughts and experiences below!