Aitah for rejecting my friends request to have an open relationship with my husband?
A woman faced unexpected tension after her friend, Lisa, confessed to having feelings for her husband and requested an open relationship so she could be with him too. The woman declined, affirming her commitment to a monogamous marriage.
In response, Lisa accused her of being selfish and has been spreading rumors among their friends, leading to a divide in their friend group. While her husband supports her decision, the situation has caused unnecessary drama. Read the original story below…
‘ Aitah for rejecting my friends request to have an open relationship with my husband?’
The I (30F) have been married to my husband (32M) for five years. We have 2 beautiful kids (5m and 6f) and have a very strong relationship and are happy together. Recently, my “friend” Lisa (29F) confided in me that she has developed feelings for my husband.
She said that she finds him attractive and admires our relationship, and she asked if we would consider having an open relationship so she could be with him too. I was shocked and told her no, explaining that my husband and I are committed to each other and that we are not interested in an open relationship.
Lisa got upset and accused me of being s**fish and closed-minded. She argued that modern relationships should be flexible and that I was denying her happiness. Since then, Lisa has been distant and has been spreading rumors in our friend group, suggesting that I am overly possessive and controlling.
This has caused a lot of tension, and some of our mutual friends are now taking sides. My husband is supportive of my decision, but I feel guilty for the drama it has caused. So, AITA for rejecting my friend’s request to have an open relationship with my husband?
These are the responses from Reddit users:
FirefighterLate2829 − Forgive my language here but Lisa sounds like a stupid b**ch
TarzanKitty − NTA Tell the friends that are on her side to let her f**k their husbands.
TheOtherAccountIUse9 − Your husband does NOT want it, you and your husband are happily monogamous, end of discussion. She’s not your friend she’s an attempted homewrecker, they are not your mutuals they are her flying monkeys. Cut them out of your like if they think this is acceptable.. NTA, obviously
Status-Pattern7539 − NTA Group message everyone, as you know she is lying to them. “Hi everyone, I thought I would clear up some things as everyone is now talking about my relationship or how I’m “controlling”. Telling Lisa that she cannot sleep with MY husband is not controlling.
Telling Lisa my husband and I are monogamous is not controlling. If any of you want to volunteer your partners to be in an open relationship with Lisa, go ahead. But my partner and I are not interested.
He is not and has never been interested in or attracted to Lisa, we have no idea where her idea to insert herself into our relationship came from but we are not entertaining such a delusion. This will be the last time I will be discussing this insane request.”
introextromidtro − This can’t be real. It’s literally “my friend wants to f**k my husband and I said no, now I feel bad for creating drama” Like your sense of boundaries and self-respect cannot be so fucked that you’re actually questioning your decision on this…
Starry-Dust4444 − This seems fake.
Prahasaurus − These posts are so stupid. Do you really think you are an AH for not allowing your friend to sleep with your husband? Really? I highly doubt it… Enjoy the upvotes.
notAugustbutordinary − The only way that you could be the AH in this situation is if you don’t tell every member of your social group what Lisa did. At present you are allowing her to dictate a false narrative. Stop her from doing that. Ask any of your mutual friends if they want their partner’s sharing Lisa’s bed?
goblinillionaire − NTA, serious, open and shut. Edit: I should explain more. Your friend wants to have an affair with your husband and make you a cuckoldess.. Send her a link to the tinder app.
nicog67 − This has to be fake
Was she wrong for setting this boundary?
