AITAH for refusing to subsidize my wife and kids any more?
A Reddit user explains his decision to stop financially supporting his wife and two adult children, all of whom have full-time jobs but have never contributed to household expenses. Frustrated by their lack of effort, including failing to stock basic groceries he requested, he decided to relocate to his retirement property overseas and cease funding their household budget. Now, his family is furious, and he’s left wondering if his decision was too harsh. Read the full story below and weigh in.
‘ AITAH for refusing to subsidize my wife and kids any more?’
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Do you think the Redditor’s decision was fair, given the lack of contributions from his wife and kids, or was it too drastic? How would you handle a situation where family members take financial support for granted? Share your opinions and advice in the comments below!
If you want a divorce, ask for one calmly. At the moment you are heading for a divorce that is expensive and acrimonious. It is not wise to rile everybody up because you are ‘in the right’.
Consider your objectives in seeking a divorce, presumably to reach an amicable settlement and to continue to have a good relationship with your children and eventually your grandchildren.
Then think about an effective strategy for achieving this, which won’t be marching out of the house after a shouting match and refusing to communicate.
If you DON”T want a divorce, but want certain changes in your relationships with your wife and children, the advice above still holds true, plus asking for and listening to your wife’s point of view. For example, maybe she feels she has made a huge non-financial contribution over the years, perhaps through doing the lion’s share of child care, housework, and keeping up with friends and relations.
Your telling us that you have enabled your wife and kids to never contribute to household expenses, and you’ve supported all 4 from your own salary, paying for all the bills, plus it sounds like you even do the grocery shopping.!
What sort of a husband and father are you to allow this situation to continue for so long, then when the going get tough you retreat to a holiday home while leaving chaos and bewilderment at home, you definitely need to get Lawyered up, as they will not hesitate to take you to the cleaners, you need to grow a pair then kick them all up their salaries backsides…!!!!