AITAH for refusing to let a guy in my friends bachelor party cheat on his wife in our AirBnB?
A Redditor recently returned from a friend’s bachelor party, where he found himself in a tense situation with another guest, T. After T attempted to bring two women back to their Airbnb and get aggressive when the Redditor refused to let him use their shared bed, things escalated. This Redditor stood his ground against T’s inappropriate behavior, leading to a confrontation that resulted in property damage and accusations of assault. Read the full story below for the details.
‘ AITAH for refusing to let a guy in my friends bachelor party cheat on his wife in our AirBnB?’
Recently got back from a bachelor party for K (M28). It was not my kind of thing, drinking for three days straight and partying – but fun to see him and some buddies. K decided to invite a childhood friend of his who has always been a troubled person, we will call him T(29).
T, in my opinion, is an actual psychopath; we will leave it at that, I can elaborate more if y’all desire. On the second night, we all go out to the bars around 10PM to dance and drink more. My brother showed up, and we all had a blast. As we are all getting ready to bar hop, T is missing.
We scatter and try to find him to let him know we are leaving, but nobody can find him. We decide to stick around at that same bar after quickly checking a few others with part of the group. Around 1:30 AM, we are all getting ready to leave and we spot T with two girls.
When we ask him what the hell he was doing he says, “I’m bringing these bitches back with us, they are DTF.”. We all groan, and I personally wanted to say absolutely not – but K didn’t put up a fight so I was like whatever. After an uncomfortable ride back, we all go up to the apartment Airbnb and get ready for bed, except T, who is still outside with the girls.
I decide to sleep on the couch since my shared bed is with an extremely drunk guy I don’t want throwing up on me. T comes in at 3:30AM with one of the girls and tells me to get up, that’s his bed. I say, “no absolutely not you can sleep on the floor or in with (the drunk guy)”.
He gets aggressive and grabs my shoulder to pull me up and I stand and pin his arms to his side then repeat what I just said. After the confrontation, T goes back to my room to do something then comes out and leaves with the girl. He returns at 4:30 AM. He was really pissed I “cockblocked” him. I fundamentally disagreed with his choices and wanted to stand up for what I thought was right.
My reasons being:
A: we all paid for the Airbnb, and 11 of us (all engaged or married) in a cramped space don’t want to hear that going on.. B: he is engaged.
C: he never once asked K if it was ok to bring a girl back at all.
Following this, I found out later he destroyed my AirPods Pro and cologne to exact his revenge so I am taking him to small claims court after he spat in my face and refused to make it right. He also alleged I assaulted him, which is just not right. I pinned his arms to prevent conflict, as he is 5” shorter than me and made of play dough.. AITAH?
Heres the input from the Reddit crowd:
2centsworth4u − NTA – Sounds like he’s the kind of ‘friend’ that’s felt ‘sorry for’ but no one has guts to tell him ‘no’. It’s a friendship of fear almost. As for the ‘a**ault’ he pulled at your shoulder first. I sincerely hope T’s fiancée finds out about his shenanigans and dumps him.
JKing287 − NTA I got no love for cheaters. T sounds like an annoying POS.
JTD177 − I would have outed him in front of the girl, “ do you think your fiancée would approve of you sleeping with her?” Not to worry, you still have the opportunity to tell his fiancée now.
According_Ad6364 − NTA, even if you had been wrong to ‘cockblock’ him- which, I don’t really think you were, as he was involving all of you in his infidelity by bringing her back to the shared Airbnb that he didn’t even have a room in- he escalated by making it physical and destroying your property. Good luck on the claim, hope you win!
Remarkable_Buyer4625 − NTA – You should finish the job and let his fiancée know what he’s up yo
1indaT − NTA. What was wrong with him. If he wanted s**, he should have rented his own room.
-QuestionableMeat- − NTA for obvious reasons. There’s a minority of people with… Interesting morals and ways of looking at life in here, saying YTA. It’s… A peculiar experience reading their “thoughts”. Pay them no mind. You acted as a reasonable human being with an IQ above room temperature. That is, I assume, more than can be said for T.
InvectiveDetective − you stopped him from having s** in an open room with other people in it. You might want to add that info to your main post. Forcing other people in the room with you to hear/watch you have s** is sexual harassment and is super unethical.
Preventing it doesn’t make you a busybody. If I were one of those guys sleeping in the open loft above the living room couch, I’d be thanking you profusely. And I get wanting to mind your business and not tell this guy’s fiancée since you don’t know her. You don’t know how she’ll react.
I’d still send her an anonymous note. True, she picked a s**t partner, but that doesn’t mean she deserves an STI or to have kids with this d**che canoe and be tied to him for life. At the very least, if you do end up in small claims court, be very honest about the other women and leave it as a matter of public record.
withlove_07 − I seriously wouldn’t want to be friends or have my partner be friends with all the people completely dismissing the cheating part. Cause that means that y’all encourage cheating ,that y’all would do the same. Y’all are terrible friends and clearly care more about your friends getting laid and not about what their doing to their partners.
[Reddit User] − NTA, and send a message to the fiancée if you can locate her on social media: it’d be doing her a favour. What she does with the info is up to her, but it’s nice to have all the info available.
Do you think the Redditor was justified in stopping T from cheating on his fiancée, or should he have just let it go? How would you handle a situation where a friend’s behavior crossed the line? Share your thoughts below!
