AITAH for refusing to give my sister the wedding dress I paid for?
A 29-year-old woman is torn over whether she’s being unreasonable for refusing to lend her $5,000 wedding dress to her sister. Although her sister asked to borrow it to save money, the woman later discovered that her sister planned to alter the dress significantly.
Now, after confronting her sister and deciding not to lend the dress, her family is calling her petty and accusing her of ruining her sister’s wedding.
‘ AITAH for refusing to give my sister the wedding dress I paid for? ‘
I (29F) got married last year and spent $5,000 on my dream wedding dress. It was a custom piece, and I paid for it entirely with my own savings. My sister (26F) is getting married soon and asked if she could *borrow* my dress to “save money.”
I was hesitant because I’m emotionally attached to it, but she promised she’d take great care of it. Last week, I found out through a mutual friend that my sister actually plans to **alter the dress** to fit her style, including changing the neckline and adding sleeves.
I confronted her, and she admitted it, saying I was being selfish because it’s “just a dress” and she can’t afford something new. I told her flat out that she can’t borrow it anymore. Now my family is blowing up my phone, calling me petty and saying I’m “ruining her big day over a piece of fabric.”
I don’t think I’m wrong for wanting to keep my dress as it is, but everyone is making me feel guilty. Am I the AH for refusing to share something that means so much to me?
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
Significant-Bobcat48 − NTA at all. She was being dishonest about her intentions and she was going to completely ruin your dress to make it her own. She sounds very entitled and I’d encourage her to check herself before she wrecks herself lol
Agnesperdita − These repeat fake AI-generated wedding dress loan posts are as boring as the repeat fake plane seat swap demand posts.
kd3906 − This is fake. Three days ago, OP was a 24 year old male with a 28 year old sister. Two days ago, OP was a 30 y.o. male, and now an hour ago has popped up as a 29 y.o. female. Three posts, each about a sister whose age also fluctuates.
Notice the word “selfish” always makes an appearance with these attention-seekers. OP is TAH and deserves to be DV’d to oblivion.
RebRN34 − YTA for making this story up and wasting people’s time
justpoppingby84 − This is karma farming. Last post, you were single and living alone. This is an old story.
doihavetousethis − Read this same story on here not long ago. Plus a couple days ago you were 30F, now you’re 29F. A few days before that you were also 24M.. Make your mind up.
No_Kangaroo_5883 − Do you realize people look at your post history? Seems you are quite the age and gender traveler in the last few days. So are all three of your posts BS?. YTA because of ☝️
Inevitable_Pie9541 − Every day. Every single damn day with the “sister or sister in law wants to borrow or wreck my very precious expensive custom wedding dress and AITA cuz family is blowing up my phone” yatta yatta. YTA for yet another iteration of this stupid fake story.
Automatic_Actuator58 − Downvote. She is a post stealth
Do you think the woman is justified in refusing to lend her wedding dress, or is she being too possessive over something that could help her sister save money? How would you handle this situation? Share your thoughts and join the conversation below!