AITAH for refusing to give my late husband’s (possible) affair baby any money?
When betrayal outlives the betrayer, who pays the price? A widow faces a moral and legal quandary when a woman claims her child is the product of her late husband’s affair and demands financial support. With her own child’s future at stake, the widow must navigate grief, resentment, and the echoes of her husband’s secrets.
‘AITAH for refusing to give my late husband’s (possible) affair baby any money?’
The article has the next update at the end.
Update here: https://aita.pics/sLHuE
Expert Opinions:
Legal Perspective: Inheritance and Probate Laws
Estate attorney Rebecca Moore clarifies: “Assets bypassing probate, like jointly owned property, aren’t part of the estate. Even if the child is biologically his, they have no legal claim to those assets. The widow acted within her rights.” (Forbes Legal, 2023).
Moral Obligations in Familial Betrayal
Dr. Laura Waters, family therapist, notes: “The widow’s resentment is valid, but the affair child is an innocent party. However, her primary duty is to her own child’s stability. Moral complexity doesn’t equate to obligation.” (Psychology Today, 2022).
Financial Planning Amid Uncertainty
Financial advisor Mark Jensen advises: “Prioritizing her child’s college fund is pragmatic. Survivor benefits for the potential half-sibling should be pursued through Social Security, not personal funds, to avoid financial strain.” (Money Matters, 2023).
Community Opinions:
NTA: “Your husband’s mistakes aren’t your burden. Protect your child’s future.”
YTA: “Innocent kids deserve support, even if it’s not legally required.”
ESH: “The husband’s actions doomed everyone. The other mom’s entitlement doesn’t help.”
Justified NTA: “She’s honoring legal boundaries, not playing judge.”
These are the responses from Reddit users:
This widow’s plight exposes the ripple effects of infidelity and the harsh choices left in its wake. While legally shielded, she grapples with the weight of “what’s right” for a child tied to her husband’s betrayal. Is financial protection for her own child justification enough, or does empathy demand compromise? Where would you draw the line between justice and compassion? Share your thoughts below.
I agree with the writer’s decisions.
NTA, and the nerve of this woman, but I’d possibly think about giving the child a percentage. Maybe 10%, of whatever money there was. If your daughter has $50k for college maybe give the child $5k, $100k = $10k, but you still NTA if you don’t want to do that.
She slept with a married man and became pregnant. Too bad so sad. Granted maybe, she didn’t know though(doubt it) she’s still not entitled to anything. Late husband sounds like a bum at best and a cheating bum for all that matters and yeah….. thats really unfortunate for the innocent child but not your responsibility.
DNA test would tell if the children are both related to the dead father.