AITAH for refusing to buy a gift for a homewrecker.

A Reddit user shares their dilemma about refusing to include their uncle’s fiancée, who played a significant role in ending his previous marriage, in the family Christmas gift exchange.

While their parents urge forgiveness, the user struggles with the idea of welcoming someone they consider a “homewrecker” into the family traditions. Read the full story below.

‘ AITAH for refusing to buy a gift for a homewrecker.’

To preface this post, my uncle(43M) cheated on my aunt(39f) For the past three years while they were actively getting pregnant and getting married. After my aunt found this out, they divorced and about three months later my uncle brought the woman(35f).

He was cheating on my aunt with for the past three years into the family circle, and then got her pregnant about two months later and now they’re engaged as a side note she knew about their marriage and is claiming my aunts kids as her own.

Sorry for the long preface but I (19f) am making Christmas baskets for all the women in my immediate family as well as the extended family that I usually see, but i’m deciding not to include my uncle’s new girlfriend because it makes me enraged that even after finding out all of this, she decided to home wreck On another sidenote,

I’m also not getting my Uncle anything because of his behavior. But my mom(42f) says I’m being immature and should include her into the giftgiving because she’s gonna be a part of this family now my dad(43M) also sides with her as well.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Empty_Soup_4412 −  I’d give her a small basket and fill it with condoms.

Rowana133 −  NTA. Make sure to make one for your actual auntie and send it to her. Then you can rightfully tell your parents you made it for all your family members and it’s all taken care of.

Then you can be confused on the day of if they get mad and say, “well, I made it for all the women of my family? Why are you mad? I even sent auntie one since you said to include all the women of the family!”

choppedliver65 −  Get them t shirts that say: once a c**ater, always a c**ater and /or happy ho ho home wrecking. NTA

Lazy-Instruction-600 −  NTA. Gifts are given to show you care, not to make some homewrecker feel like she’s being accepted when that isn’t how you, the gift giver, feel. Forcing someone to give a gift they don’t want to give is basically just a lie. Don’t let them make a l**r out of you to make cheaters feel better about themselves.

If you want to give them something, give them a tiny basket with two red felt cutouts of the letter “A”. I’d tell her, “unfortunately it won’t look as good on you as Demi Moore, but she was just acting, you’re the real deal. That should count for something, right?”

razafrakn −  Well, I disagree with both your mother and father. You do not have to like either your uncle and his new wife, you do not have to accept her as part of the family, and you do not have to give them gifts and pretend to accept and like them when you clearly do not.

I don’t think you’re being immature, rather I think your parents are the immature ones because they are trying to force you to play pretend and ignore the elephant in the room. I have experienced this exact situation with out the pregnancy thing.

My uncle and aunt were married for 26 years when my uncle cheated on her, divorced her, and married the woman he cheated on her with. The woman he married is an absolute b*tch. She thinks she is better than everyone else even though she’s a r**ist and a failure as a mother to her own kids.

She even went as far as to tell me at my grandfather’s funeral that she was saddened by my grandfather’s d**th (sure, because my uncle was about to inherit $2 million of my grandfathers $6 million fortune)

but was full of joy and glad when my grandmother passed (because my grandmother refused to ignore the elephant in the room and absolutely loved my first aunt). My uncle knows that we cannot stand his new wife and that’s why we only visit when he comes alone to visit my dad.

My dad is the only one who will visit him, my dad always the peace keeper. Anyway, you definitely don’t have to accept the situation and are well within your right to make it known.

Ruebee90 −  NTA!

cryssHappy −  Well the very best gift might be – non lubricated condoms, size XS.

Puzzled-Dream1321 −  Please do make a gift basket…. for your aunt (39).

HeartAccording5241 −  Tell your parents you love them but you will not support cheaters or a home wrecker

tb0904 −  You don’t have to have any contact with either of them, much less give gifts.

Do you think the Redditor’s decision to exclude their uncle’s fiancée was fair given the circumstances, or should family unity take precedence during the holidays? How would you navigate such a complicated situation? Share your thoughts below!