AITAH for not paying my gf roommates’ rent?

A Reddit user (19F) is facing a dilemma after being asked to contribute to the rent and electric bill for her girlfriend’s (19F) apartment, where she occasionally stays on weekends. Her girlfriend’s roommate, M, and her boyfriend, E, who has never contributed to rent or utilities, are now demanding that the user pay half of the electric bill and a portion of the rent, as E agreed to cover the last electric bill but is refusing.

The Redditor believes she shouldn’t pay since she doesn’t live there full-time, but tensions rise after M and E call her out and threaten to not let her stay if she refuses. Read the original story below…

‘ AITAH for not paying my gf roommates’ rent?’

I (19F) and my gf (19F) have been together for about a year and a half. About 6 months ago she moved in with a group of her friends. For some context, I live about an hour away from my gf and on the weekends I will drive to see her for the weekend and vise versa. I have never stayed in the apartment for longer than 2 days and I will often do dishes or help clean around the house to say thank you.

Also one of her friends decided to move in her boyfriend without asking (well call her M and call him E). Now here’s the issue. M and E are about to move out and E has never paid for rent, groceries or water/electric and said that E would pay the total of the last electric bill. My gf asked M if E could pay the last electric bill, as was agreed upon to which M lost it on my gf and called a “roommate meeting” where everyone in the house meets in the living room to “talk it out”.

I happened to be staying the weekend and they made me come to this roommate meeting, I was incredibly confused so I just went out anyway. M and E then said that they will not be paying any of the last electric bill and that if my gf wanted E to pay a portion of the last electric bill that I needed to pay HALF of the total rent due on the first and pay HALF the electric bill.

My gf said that I am here max 4 days out of the month and that I didn’t live here unlike E. Then they asked me if I would pay and I said no, as I pay rent at my own apartment where I go to school and that I again, don’t live here. All the roommates were mad, calling me names and saying that if I didn’t pay then I could not sleep there.

My gf then told all the roommates that because she pays rent here she also has a say on who stays in the apartment and that I will be staying. I may be the a**hole because I would not pay them despite staying in the apartment anyway. So Am I the A**hole for not wanting to pay my gf’s roommates’ rent?

Check out how the community responded:

toosheeptheorist −  NTA – E was actually living there, while you only visit 4 days per month. The people who actually LIVE there are the ones who owe money for rent/utilities etc. The fact atht you actually clean up after yourself on the occasions that you visit are a complete bonus. I’m pretty sure it’s time for your gf to find new a new living arrangement – either her own place, or new roommates. (I am assuming that there are more roommates than just M involved in this scenario).

mlc885 −  NTA. You do not live there, you have only ever been a guest. It would still be a slightly weird request even if you slept over regularly but several days a month with your girlfriend just isn’t living there.

Olthar6 −  NTA. As it’s written,  this one most ridiculous asks from roommates I’ve ever heard,  but they all seemed to think it’s reasonable,  which means it might be for some reason (or they’re all delusional teens with no prior shared living experiences).  Edited after INFO what are you leaving out of this story?

Competitive_Cod_3843 −  NTA. You are a guest and not a resident. You contribute in the ways a guest would contribute, by trying to make the place nicer than you found it, but you are not liable for utilities. The boyfriend, E, had no other place of residence. He was one of the roommates. That is a very different obligation.

AbjectMagazine9826 −  Your GF SAID you will be staying. But she did not say you will be paying which is totally asinine. You would be an i**ot to open your wallet to pay to stay.

Vulpix-Rawr −  NTA. Who’s names are on the lease? They are the ones responsible for rent. If M and E are on the lease, gf can talk to the landlord about what’s going on and make M and/or E pay half. That said, only one name is typically on the utility bill. Is it your gf’s? If so she may unfortunately have to pay.

Legitimate-Media8103 −  NTA · because the OP doesn’t even live there and just there for 4 days a month, so M and E should both work because OP is still in school and M and E is probably not in school either so M and E should pay their rent since OP is dealing with her rent.

Supernova-Max −  NTA Based on all that drama why would you even want to there?!