AITAH for not paying for my nephew to do the fun things I take my nieces to do?
A man has been enjoying fun outings with his nieces but finds himself in a dilemma when his sister expresses concern over including her son, whom she believes could be negatively influenced by his past.
After his nephew learned about the outings and expressed a desire to join, the man’s sister asked him to provide money for her son to do those activities without him.
He stood firm on his decision, stating that he would only include his nephew if his sister felt comfortable enough to join them, sparking tension between family members—follow the story below for more insight into this family situation.
‘AITAH for not paying for my nephew to do the fun things I take my nieces to do?’
So I often take my nieces (my brother’s girls) out to do fun activities. I also have a nephew (my sister’s son) that I don’t take out to do fun activities because my sister does not want me around her son. Her reasons are because I used to get involved in some illegal stuff and was in jail for a little over a year 8 years ago.
So she thinks I am still a bad influence even though I have changed a lot since then and have a stable life for years now. That’s said it’s her kid, her choice. So I never argued with her about it.However, the cousins have been talking and my nephew has just learned about all the things me and his cousins do and now he wants to go too.
My sister can’t afford to take him out to do these things on her own and she want’s me to give her the money so they can go on their own. The whole point of me taking my nieces out is to bond with them. I told my sister if ever changes her mind I’ll happily pay for her son to come along with us, but that I wouldn’t just give her the money.
I also told her that she could come along to if she really didn’t trust me, but I would only pay for my nephew and she would have to pay for herself.
Here’s what people had to say to OP:
Nimindir says:
You’re not good enough for my child… but your money is.
Circle_K_Hole says:
I’ll tell you what, you do the work, you get the money. I’ll just give you the drugs and you can sell them yourself and take your kid to Chuck E Cheese with the proceeds.
NTAw
Artsy_Geekette says:
So she thinks I am still a bad influence even though I have changed a lot since then and have a stable life for years now. That’s said it’s her kid, her choice. So I never argued with her about it.However, the cousins have been talking and my nephew has just learned about all the things me and his cousins do and now he wants to go too.
My sister can’t afford to take him out to do these things on her own and she want’s me to give her the money so they can go on their own. The whole point of me taking my nieces out is to bond with them.
I told my sister if ever changes her mind I’ll happily pay for her son to come along with us, but that I wouldn’t just give her the money.That sounds like my ex-SIL and her entire weirdly-pompous yet trailer-trash family.
Luckily, my nephew is growing up to be a kind, talented, and good-hearted man in the meanwhile. I hope when my nephew is 18, we can both talk or at least give him the opportunity to talk with me and my husband.
PsychologicalBit5422 says:
What you said was powerful and brilliant. I am So so sorry that you lived and still living it, but wow.
pandaBear1025 says:
This is so well said. My dad is a d*ug addict. He’s been sober off and on for years. He had 3 years clean and sober and still started using again. It’s so hard to trust them when you know what they are capable of when high.
This situation sheds light on the challenges of family dynamics, especially when past actions impact current relationships. Should the man be more flexible and find a way to include his nephew, or is he justified in prioritizing his nieces based on their close bond? What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments!
