AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to?

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A Redditor shares a dilemma involving a last-minute uninvitation to a baby shower they had spent an entire day preparing food for. After being asked to still deliver the food despite being uninvited, they refused, leading to tension and accusations.
Was the decision justified, or should they have accommodated the request? Read the full story below!
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‘ AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? ‘
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Here’s what Redditors had to say:
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Do you think the Redditor was justified in refusing to deliver the food after being uninvited, or should they have prioritized the spirit of the event? How would you handle such a situation? Share your thoughts below!
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Here’s how I would handle the “situation”.
#1 – the shower is 3 days away from the dis-invitation and I have had time to calm down – I would do nothing to or for the shower and I would salvage as much of the food as I could for freezing for later consumption.
#2 – the shower is tomorrow when she dis-invites me – I would deliver the food by packing it with rocks and throwing it through the windows of her home and dumping it in the dirt in her yard. I would be sure not to leave any PROOF that it was me. LOL Sometimes my temper gains control and overrules my good sense.
She wanted free catering! No way in hell, would I bring the food.
NTA your so called friend is. If she was worried about food she wouldn’t have uninvited you. Charge her for your time and don’t provide the food. She’s no friend of yours.
I’d block the group and eat the food myself
I agree, she is not the AH! If anybody should have been dropped, it shouldn’t have been her. It sounds like she was just using her for her money and food and doesn’t really consider her a “friend”! Her lost and your gain to know instead of assuming you all are friends.
Id send out invites to people in her friends list to come dor a delicious meal at the same time as her baby shower and put up photos of the people from her event that came to yours up for her to see
If she pays for it plus profit then she can ask for it to be delivered. If not, she just tried to scam you.
Definitely NTA, you don’t need people in your life that use and abuse, you advisory did the right thing and good on you for standing your ground!!!
It’s not even a question. The letter writer is one hundred percent justified in not dropping off the food. I admire her taking a hard stance.
WTAF! that is just a totally f**ked up move! I Just found out at 35wks?? Yeah, right! Dumpster Fire Friend you do not need in your life. Throw a ‘UnBirthday party for all of your neighbors and enjoy yourselves.
So NTA! You weren’t catering for her event, you offered as her friend and invitee to the party to help by making some food, you’re obviously just a really nice and organised person by planning for 5x as many people as she said were coming 😅. Completely unreasonable of her to expect you to still provide the food when you’re no longer invited! If she wants you to cater without attending then charge her the cost of catering! So for the ingredients, travel costs, gas/electric used to do the cooking and especially your time/ inconvenience, and the cost of a babysitter for your little one for the 2 days.
Hmm she conned her into cooking her meal for her and her real friends. Please don’t go all the way for people who just inform you of things few days before the event. They just trying to use you period….
She was fully within her rights to not deliver the food. The b***h definitely used her for her own gain. Good for her for standing up and telling her no. MTB seems very entitled and the real AH
First off how do you just find out you are pregnant at 35 weeks? That sounds strange. She was definitely looking for free food. I would give her the food along with a bill.
I absolutely would NOT have dropped the food off UNLESS she reimbursed me for my expenses, in addition to my travel time. Period. And I would need to be paid before I dropped it off.