AITAH for no-longer doing “husbandly duties” after my girlfriend complains about having to do “wifely duties” and we aren’t married?
A Reddit user shares a dramatic update about his tumultuous breakup with his girlfriend after a conversation reveals their fundamentally different expectations for the relationship. Initially intending to let her go due to feelings of being used and unappreciated, the user confronts her about her behavior and the disparity in their commitment levels.
What follows is a chaotic confrontation filled with accusations, emotional outbursts, and even a police intervention, highlighting the intense fallout of their relationship. Read the original post below to see how a candid conversation escalated into a heated breakup.
‘ Update – AITAH for no-longer doing “husbandly duties” after my girlfriend complains about having to do “wifely duties” and we aren’t married?’
So, I have a little update about a situation that I posted on friday. So, on Saturday around 6pm I decided to have a conversation with my ex-girlfriend. At first, I wanted to wait until today but I felt like I just needed to get it done. The intention of this talk was to let her go because I wasn’t interested in trying to work things out anymore when it was clear she didn’t love or respect me. I also took some advice to record our talk.
So, when my ex got back from work, I decided to sit her down and I was upfront with her saying I was unhappy in our current situation. I brought up how I felt used and I was expected to do all these different things for her while I didn’t get anything in return.
I brought up how I’ve tried to explain how I felt so many times and at which time she ignored it because she felt like she was always right. I then asked her what made her attitude change and a lot of you guys were correct, she wanted to get married to me but I wasn’t getting the hint so she decided if she stopped doing things for me then I would realize how much I needed her.
I brought up the fact how I told her from the beginning I wasn’t interested in getting married so young and I also told her if she was then our relationship wouldn’t work because we were expecting different things. I told her that it would be best if we ended our relationship because this obviously wasn’t working for us and I wasn’t interested in continuing it.
She tried to say that she would change, how she loved me, and how she was being stupid. I was firm and told her that I’m glad she realized how her actions were stupid and maybe she learned her lesson for her next relationship. After I confirmed that I wasn’t changing my mind she literally went crazy (mind you I’m still secretly recording).
She started screaming how I was a useless piece of s**t, how she never loved me, etc. It honestly scared me how she went from calm to a scary lady in a matter of seconds. At this point, she started throwing my stuff at me and even went as far to throw my game station at me which resulted in it getting smashed when it hit the floor.
Like that wasn’t enough, she went into the kitchen and started throwing glass plates at me while calling me useless b*tch. At this point, I was pissed and I went into our room and started throwing her s**t into a trash bag and threatened to call the police. I didn’t even get time to call the police because I guess my neighbors heard all the commotion and called them for me.
The police ended up coming to my door and asking about the noise in which I told him the whole situation and how my ex was being really violent towards me. She tried to play it like I was the one who was in the wrong and maybe he would’ve believed her if I didn’t have the video on my phone.
He ended up trying to escort her away from my apartment but she refused to leave without her stuff so I had to quickly throw all her s**t into trash bags while she waited outside. The cop was kind enough to help because I honestly wanted her away from my home as soon as possible.
After all her stuff was collected, she ended up leaving with the cop and that was about 30 minutes ago. Now I’m staying up really late tonight because she still has the key to the apartment and I’m waiting for the 24-hour locksmith to arrive. Though, I was too stressed about remembering the key to my home, she did forget to take the keys to my other car with her so I happily have those.
See what others had to share with OP:
Swimming_Menu8607 − You dodged that bullet like your were in the f**king Matrix dude. Nice work man.
lianavan − Good Lord, that seriously escalated. Good on you for filming.
skullyfrost40 − Good for you. And why didn’t you press charges? Are u going to sue? She ruined expensive s**t.
Kigichi − Major bullet dodged. She found out she was losing her cash cow and the easy life she had, and went mad because of it. (Because really, who else is ever going to fund her entire life and schooling?) I would also get cameras just in case she comes back crying for a second chance or being violent.
(Also be ready for the “I’m pregnant” ploy and demand proof and a DNA test) Maybe in her next relationship she will learn to accept that someone isn’t ready for marriage and not bite the hand that feeds her.
I have a feeling she will be too busy working to afford school and an apartment though to think about dating for a while. Oh, and press charges for everything she destroyed. You have evidence and she doesn’t deserve the kindness of being let off the hook.
[Reddit User] − I hope the people in the other post who were acting like \*you\* were the e**itled one feel like idiots right now.
EmptyPomegranete − Press charges for destruction of property
cds0506 − bUt sHe wAS gUNna cHAnGe! Change your expensive stuff into broken trash. Ya did good, son.
nickis84 − Don’t forget to change passwords and pins on any accounts she might know. This includes financial, social media, streaming, memberships, etc. Don’t let her mess up your life in any way.
8512764EA − NTA. This is the second one I’ve read today where the girl had a hysterical breakdown after pretending to be calm and level headed
cnycompguy − Brother man just went full Neo. Dodged not just a bullet, but the entire mag from that Uzi full of crazy.
Did the user handle the situation appropriately, or could he have approached the breakup differently? How should couples navigate differing expectations in a relationship, especially when marriage is on the table? Share your thoughts below!