AITAH for lying to my husband that my sister is cooking the food he pays 750 dollars/week for when it is me who cooks?
One Reddit user shared a surprising story about dealing with her husband’s constant complaints about her cooking. After feeling disrespected and tired of his criticism, she decided to tell him the dinners he’s paying $750 a week for are prepared by her personal-chef sister, even though she’s the one actually cooking.
With her husband none the wiser and now complimenting the “new chef’s” meals, the user wonders if she’s in the wrong for this white lie. Read the full story below to see if you think she handled it well!
‘ AITAH for lying to my husband that my sister is cooking the food he pays 750 dollars/week for when it is me who cooks?’
Sorry I had to rewrite because I did the math and the conversion is to 750 dollars and not 600 dollars. So my sister is a personal chef for some upper middle class families, mostly lawyers and doctors who work 24/7 but still want home cooked healthy meals.
My husband always complained about my disgusting food and he called me worthless in the kitchen. Every time we are invited to m6 sister’s or mum’s he would bite my head off about how they’re better. I know for a fact that I am as good if not better because I was taught from the same chef, mum, who’s a literal genius.
I had it up to here and said FINE we can pay my sister for dinners so for a year now he’s been paying me 750 to pay my sister. When he comes home he starts raving about how the whole apartment smells amazing from the delivered food and that only now he looked forward to coming home for dinner.
The thing is it smells amazing yes but it is because the food is made in MY kitchen, by ME. The only thing that has changed is that I put my sister’s name on it and bag the money. Ha ha ha not even sorry. He is happy, I am richer and my sister finds the whole thing amusing. Everyone wins!. She offered me to work for her too.
Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:
Big_Zucchini_9800 − NTA. The fact that he was SO insulting and vile about “your” food but now loves “sister’s” food means he was just trying to hurt you, to break you down and make you feel small.
His high praise now is supposed to make you jealous of your sister and feel like you aren’t good enough to provide for your husband. I say keep taking the money but make an exit plan now in case he turns his attentions to hurting you elsewhere when he realizes his current angle isn’t hurting you anymore.
cassowary32 − NTA. But why are you still married to this AH??
NotShockedFruitWeird − NTA. Hope you have a separate account to put the money in that he doesn’t know about, lol
completedett − YTA to yourself. Why would you stay with a man who enjoys hurting you like this ?. I don’t see a win. Yes you are making money but I hope you are saving that money to leave him. Your husband is a abuser, who enjoys hurting you. You seem to have very low self esteem and no self respect.
LoveColonels − Smells like rage bait.
Character-Attempt-46 − Hide the money and if he ever catches you, say that you have been taking lessons from your sis and that sis had to do something and that’s why you cooked that day. Also your husband is a j**k. NTAH but questionable.
MasterGas9570 − I’m struggling to believe this story. If you were cooking all the meals at home, then there would be noticable dishes.
But lets say that you re cleaning up all the dishes and getting them put away before he gets home, are you also bagging the food up in reheatable containers to then re-heat it when he gets home (Because it would have gone cold while completely cleaning the kitchen).
What hours do you work (Since you said that you work full time) where you are able to go grocery shopping for all these secret groceries and then cook it and clean it and box it p as though you bought it, all before he gets home from work?
How do you sneak in all your cooking on the days he doesn’t woring?He is willing to spend over $100/day just for dinner? Why not just order from a nice restaraunt each day instead? Regardless – if true – he sounds like a AH and this would be a great deal for you if you enjoy sneaking around and cooking and cleaning.
GladysSchwartz23 − This HAS to be fake
2npac − This is stupid…why are you with an a**sive a**hole? He trashes your cooking in front of your family? Compares you to them and tell you they’re so much better? What’s wrong with all of you?. ESH
steamyhotpotatoes − NTA but… why would you stay? The intent behind this is clear—attack your skills and make you question your abilities as a wife tending to her husband. Now if you’re saving the money to bail the relationship, godspeed.
But if this is just going to remain some inside joke for the unforeseeable future where your husband is allowed to demean you at the expense of your sister… I don’t know if this is a flex.
Do you think the Reddit user’s approach was a clever way to restore harmony at home, or should she come clean about who’s really cooking? How would you handle a partner’s criticism of your cooking skills? Share your thoughts and experiences below!
