AITAH For kicking my wife of over a decade out of the house for cheating on me again?

A husband shares his decision to end his marriage after discovering his wife of over a decade has cheated on him yet again, despite his previous forgiveness. This time, he decided enough was enough and took steps to protect himself. Was his response justified? Read the full story below…

‘ AITAH For kicking my wife of over a decade out of the house for cheating on me again?’

My wife (30f) and I (31m) were high school sweet hearts. We moved out of our parents houses together, got married, had kids, and grown a lot, at least I thought.
Over the course of our relationship, she has cheated on me at least a dozen times, sneaking off with old flames or coworkers to make-out and more.

Some of these times, I only found out about years after being married. For some reason, I’ve always forgiven her, but what happened this week was unforgivable. We had 3 Christmases over 3 days, my parents, hers, and a third 2 hours out of town, with her grandparents and extended family.

I drove both ways, which isn’t uncommon, but when we came home she asked if she could go visit her best friend. “She’s just really sad too be all alone for Christmas.” She told me and I told her to go, because for some reason I still trusted her. “You could say no.” But after a full day of driving and playing with our kids I was beat, I told her to go, but not expect me awake when she got home.

“Maybe I’ll wake you up with a surprise, I’ll be home by midnight.” My instincts told me something was wrong, so I reached out to her best friend, who never responded. Four and a half hours later she comes home, and loiters outside, on the phone with a guy’s she works with, the guy she’s been cheating on me with all month, apparently.

I pulled every crucial detail of her latest dalliance out of her over the next several hours, distraught to be back here, again. The following morning I put her on blast of Facebook, told her brothers and friends directly, and kicked her out of the house, next I’m divorcing her for good. AITAH for protecting my emotional wellbeing, and separating myself from this repeated abuse of my trust?

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

FSB75 −  I read 2 words. “Cheating” and “again”.. NTA.

Jidzado −  Honestly, it’s your decision, but if my wife cheated on me a single time, it would be over between us.

Tiffany6152 −  “Maybe I will wake you up with a surprise.”. Yeah….herpes

bhyellow −  “A dozen times”. Yta for not having divorced her 11 times ago.

SirenBeautyShadow −  No, you’re not the a**hole. You’ve been dealing with betrayal after betrayal, and this last incident was the final straw. You’ve given her multiple chances, and she continued to disrespect you. It’s completely understandable that you’d protect your emotional well-being and decide to leave. You deserve honesty and respect, and it sounds like you’re finally choosing to prioritize yourself and your happiness.

Worldatmyfingertipss −  NTA. Serial cheaters belong on the streets. I’m happy you were strong enough to kick her out and I would recommend a divorce and full custody of the kids if you can swing that.

Tiffany6152 −  That has got to be fake. Or I am hoping at least. Have some self respect there guy. She didn’t even bother to get off the phone with him when she got home from cheating on you with him.

She disrespectfully sat in your front yard and just kept talking to him on the phone like it was OK. NTA but if you stay, she’s just gonna keep cheating on you and you might as well accept it because you let her do whatever she wants and she knows that.

Dense_Island_5120 −  NTA my man. You absolutely must move on from this inconsiderate person. She doesn’t love you or respect you. If you forgive her again you’ll be signing your life away. You must look deep into yourself on why you put up with this for so long, Look into yourself and find the root of why you forgave her.

Get yourself therapy and never turn back to her. There are partners out there who you can trust that won’t betray you like she did. She is a s**iopath narcissist to have cheated on you so much. Don’t ruin yourself and your ability to trust others over her

sfrancisch5842 −  Y T A to yourself for not respecting yourself enough to kick her lying cheating ass out after the first time.. Or second.. Or third.. Or fourth.. Or fifth.. I’m sure you get the point.

ronniereb1963 −  Why do you even have to ask, absolutely NTA, cheated on once would be enough to justify your actions let alone multiple times and on Christmas?!?!

Was he right to finally draw the line and prioritize his emotional well-being? Or was exposing her actions publicly an overstep? Share your thoughts below!