AITAH for kicking my brother and his wife out of my house after they demanded I change my baby’s name?
A woman (32F) and her husband named their newborn daughter “Lena” to honor her late mother. However, her brother (37M) and sister-in-law (35F), who don’t have children yet, accused them of “stealing” the name, claiming they had planned to use it for their future daughter.
When the couple refused to stop demanding a name change, the new mom asked them to leave. They’re now telling family she’s “heartless” and “stole their dream name.” read the original story below…
‘ AITAH for kicking my brother and his wife out of my house after they demanded I change my baby’s name?’
My husband (34M) and I (32F) just had our first baby, a beautiful little girl. We named her “Lena” after my late mother, who passed away a few years ago. The name has deep meaning for us, and it felt perfect. My older brother (37M) and his wife (35F) came over to meet the baby for the first time.
As soon as they heard her name, my SIL’s face dropped. She said Lena was the name she had “always planned” to use for her future daughter (they don’t have kids yet) and accused us of “stealing” the name.
At first, I thought she was joking, but she kept going, saying we were “selfish” and “ruined” the name for her. My brother backed her up and suggested we “consider changing it” since “they called dibs” years ago.
I lost it and told them they were being ridiculous and disrespectful, especially since the name honors my mom. When they wouldn’t drop it, I asked them to leave. Now they’re telling our family that I’m “heartless” and “stole their dream name” while “overreacting” by kicking them out.. AITAH? 🫠
Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:
Timely-Second2457 − So she isn’t pregnant yet and is calling dibs on a name?
1. No guarantee she will even have kids
2. No guarantee she will have girls
Also last I checked she was your mom too!. NTA.
Competitive-Bat-43 − I swear to God we are getting stupider as a species.. 1. No one can call dibs on a name
2. Two people can have the same name EVEN COUSINS.
3. I what universe is it OK to ask someone to change a baby’s name. 4. NTA
JoanneAsbury42 − They can always use it as a middle name! Both mine and my brothers daughters have the same middle name, our moms. It’s an easy solution. Or Hey! Why not 2 Lenas????? NTA
JellicoAlpha_3_1 − *For the record, we had no idea that they wanted to use the name as they never communicated that to us. But with respect to everyone in this family, I will not now, nor will I ever change our daughter’s name.
And if anyone has a problem with that, they are free to f**k right off and never speak to me again. I will be going low contact with Brother and SIL until such a time as they pull their heads out of their asses and stop pretending they are victims.*. NTAH
Downtown_Antelope711 − This was just used a week ago except the sister used the name for a dog
JASSEU − People get stupid about things that may never happen. Your good.
Hinevis1a − NTA! Names aren’t something you can call dibs on, and you’ve got every right to name your baby after someone as special as your mom. It sounds like your SIL needs a lesson in what’s actually “ridiculous.” Kicking them out might seem harsh to some,
but standing your ground in your own home is totally justified. You don’t need that kind of drama clouding such a happy time. Maybe they can consider the name “Chill” for their future kid instead. Keep enjoying your baby Lena, and don’t let anyone dampen your joy.
kpeds45 − Cool story that didn’t happen..
LostNTheNoise − Man these AITAH AI posts are getting more and more the same. I mean I don’t think 3/4ths the people in the real world could agree to always put the word selfish in quotes.
Cute-Profession9983 − NTA It’s an unreasonable request AND it’s honoring your late mothet.
Is she wrong for standing by her meaningful choice, or are her brother and SIL overstepping? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!