AITAH for just deciding not to travel because my wife made reservations for Disney again?

A husband (39M) is frustrated with his wife (39F) always choosing Disney for every vacation, including their honeymoon and nine prior trips. When he suggested Hawaii for a change, she booked Aulani,

the Disney resort there, claiming it was a “compromise.” Feeling unheard, he refused to travel, leading her to cancel the reservation and plan a Disney trip with a friend instead. read the original story below…

‘ AITAH for just deciding not to travel because my wife made reservations for Disney again?’

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My wife Jess and I have been married for the past 13 years. We’re both 39. After experiencing financial hardship throughout our twenties and early 30s, Jess and I are now fortunate enough to have the means to travel once or twice a year. The only problem is that Jess literally only wants to go to Disney World.

We have been to Disney nine times now, and every vacation we have ever taken together was to go there, including our honeymoon. So we go, we eat the Mickey Mouse ice cream, we wear the mouse ears, we stay in the official hotels, we see the characters, we ride the rides, we take the pictures in front of Cinderalla’s castle, and we come home.

Every trip.I’m honestly beyond sick of Disney, and I never really liked going in the first place. Jess knows this, but she has no concept of travel beyond Disney. We’re currently planning a trip for April, and Jess, as usual, said that we can “just go to Disney.”

I explained that it sounds fun, but hey, why don’t we go somewhere like Hawaii this time? Jess was confused. She asked why we would go to Hawaii. I responded that we could enjoy the spas and go to the beach. Jess mumbled a halfhearted answer and walked away.

A few days later, she approached me, saying that she made hotel reservations for Hawaii. At first, I was excited because although she did so without consulting me, it seemed like she was really listening.

But then when she showed me the hotel she booked, I found she had made reservations for Aulani, the Disney resort in Hawaii. Frustrated, I told her that I’m honestly tired of Disney, and that I just want to have a different experience this time.

She told me that she was “compromising” with me, and that I should be “appreciative” for the time she spent. I asked her if she was willing to consider anything other than Disney for our trip, and she said no. At this point, I said that I wasn’t going.

Now she’s furious. She canceled the reservation she made, and now she’s looking for a friend to go to Disney World with again without me. Was I the a**hole here for not trying to accommodate her request?

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Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

hotwaterwithlemonpls −  How the f**k did this go on for 9 trips without you saying something? I’d have gone mad after going a 2nd time

writing_mm_romance −  Ffs, does she realize there’s a whole nonDisney world out there? And it’s much less expensive with shorter lines?

Winternin −  Your wife needs to learn to consider her husband’s feelings instead of only her own. NTA. I explained that it sounds fun, but hey, why don’t we go somewhere like Hawaii this time? Jess was confused. However, you should also consider being more truthful with your wife.

If you can’t even be truthful to your wife, who can you be truthful with? It obviously did not sound fun at all to you so just be clear on that. In fact, the 2nd time she booked the disney trip you should have been honest with her and suggested something else.

Freeverse711 −  NTA. Seeing Disney twice was enough for me. There are soooooo many other awesome places in the world.

rstwt −  Wtf, you have a wife problem. She’s not into fully compromising at all. She doesn’t look beyond herself much. Book yourself a nice vacation and go.

Sc0ttykn0s −  At 39, it might be time to consider broadening her horizons and embracing more of what the world has to offer. Life is too short to be spent solely between home and Disney when there’s so much out there waiting to be explored.

MuntjackDrowning −  You are living my worst nightmare, legally tethered to a Disney adult. Your vacations sound like my hell.

MayorCharlesCoulon −  I think your wife has a mouse problem.

nicholaiia −  Do you always leave planning to her, or does she always just do the planning because Disney? You should plan a vacation, and once all plans are set, tell her. If she gets mad and doesn’t want to go, then invite me. LOL

Consistent_Lime_9126 −  nta, it’s fair to voice your feelings if you’re not excited about going to Disney again. it’s okay to set boundaries around travel plans, especially if it’s something you’re not enjoying.

Is he wrong for refusing to go, or is his wife being too inflexible? What would you do in this situation? Share your thoughts below!