AITAH for exposing my boyfriend’s friend after he repeatedly tried to sleep with me?
A woman shares how her boyfriend’s friend, “Jake,” persistently harassed her, trying to initiate an affair despite her repeated rejections. After Jake’s behavior escalated, she informed her boyfriend and Jake’s girlfriend, providing proof of his inappropriate advances.
As a result, Jake was cut off by her boyfriend, and his girlfriend ended their relationship. Now, mutual friends blame her for “ruining” Jake’s life and causing drama, arguing she should have kept quiet. read the original story below…
‘ AITAH for exposing my boyfriend’s friend after he repeatedly tried to sleep with me?’
This is a bit messy, but here it goes. Before I started dating my boyfriend, his friend (let’s call him “Jake”) asked me out. I declined because I wasn’t interested, and later, I got into a relationship with my now-boyfriend. I didn’t know they were friends at the time.
When Jake found out I was dating his friend, he started becoming very intentional about wanting to sleep with me. He would flirt, make inappropriate comments, and even tried to convince me that it would be “our secret.” I shut him down every time, but he wouldn’t stop.
It got to a point where I felt uncomfortable, so I told my boyfriend about it. I also decided to inform Jake’s girlfriend (let’s call her “Anna”) because I felt she deserved to know. I even showed her proof of his messages. After everything came out, my boyfriend cut Jake off, and Anna broke up with him.
Now, some mutual friends think I caused unnecessary drama and ruined Jake’s life. They argue that I should’ve kept it between Jake and me instead of telling Anna. So, AITAH for exposing him and causing these consequences?
Check out how the community responded:
Imaginary_Finish7200 − NTA. You did something good
Wooden_Television701 − I refuse to believe anybody would blame you for telling Anna. Wtf. Where is Omar.
NoMoreJojoNames − I love how people call it “unnecessary drama” when you were getting harassed. Yet they won’t comment on that. Continue to flush the toxins down the drain and protect your peace.. NTA.
Majestic_Bit_4784 − NTA You did the poor girl a favor and she had every right to know what her bf gets up to, you might not of even been the first girl he’s done this to. He may of even already cheated physically with girls prior to you. From what you said he appeared confident enough to try it with you knowing your his friends gf.
DangerDog619 − This is AI. AI loves the name Jake. The last paragraph is formulaic. The punctuation and style of writing is what we see in AI generated posts
MachineLordZero − NTA. Jake ruined his own life. You let your boyfriend and Anna know about someone n**ty in their lives.
jimbojangles1987 − Another one of these “my friends and family are split on this very obviously NTA thing i did” that makes me immediately think it’s fake.
Why would anyone think you were in the wrong? Are those the type of people you still want to be calling “friends”? The answer should be no.
nylonvest − NTA. Jake’s the one who did all these things, so he’s the one who has caused the consequences. As for keeping it between you and Jake – you did try, that’s why this had to happen multiple times before you told your boyfriend. It’s that he wouldn’t stop.
Could you have convinced him to stop without exposing him? Maybe. But it’s really not your responsibility to preserve the secrecy as much as possible. If he wanted not to be exposed he shouldn’t have made you feel like he would never stop.
Texas_sucks15 − ditch the friends who are condemning you, they’re toxic. you did the right thing.
Vegetable_Debt7737 − You did good babygirl
Standing up against harassment often has ripple effects, but was she wrong for revealing the truth? Or were Jake’s actions the real issue here? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!