AITAH for cutting off my best friend after she kept quiet about her mom and my bf?

A Reddit user, a 24-year-old woman, shares the painful story of discovering that her best friend, with whom she grew up, knew about her boyfriend’s affair with her mother. The user had been dating her boyfriend for five years, and her friend had allowed them to meet at her house.

However, it was later revealed that her friend and her mother had been involved with the user’s boyfriend, and her friend justified not telling her because her mother was happy with him. Now, after cutting her friend off, the user is facing pressure from others to reconnect, but she feels betrayed. Read the full story below to see the user’s perspective on this painful betrayal.

‘ AITAH for cutting off my best friend after she kept quiet about her mom and my bf?’

We grew up together in same neighbourhood and her parents had a big age gap. Her father was also very a**sive and they were kind of relieved when he died. I have always been there for her whenever she had issues.
I, 24F, startated dating my bf in college 5 years ago. We still live with our parents and didn’t have place for intimacy.

Her house we could meet and we often went there to get together. Her mom was fine with it and even encouraged us. I never imagined her to backstab me like this.

She and my bf have been cheating on me for years now and my friend knew about it. She said she just couldn’t tell on her mom because she was so happy with him. Her mom had a traumatic past and her acting like that was result of it. She justified not telling me about it to my face.

Now when I left her she is crying and trying to get my parents and friends to get me to talk to her. I can’t tell my parents what happened but my friend’s think I am punishing her for no fault of her own and also that its understandable what her mom did. Am I the a**hole for cutting her off?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

VatoSafado −  F**k no! You are not the a**hole. She picked the side that was deceiving you.

RepulsiveNotice3288 −  you’re not the ah. betrayal from both your best friend and bf is a huge breach of trust, and cutting them off is totally justified.

iknowsomethings2 −  F**K NO. NTA. Your best friend is a POS and so is your boyfriend and the best friends Mum. Why aren’t you telling your Mum? Tell the world. Don’t keep your grief a secret and what they did to you. All three of them betrayed you and the mums a creepy. Gross he would sleep with you and then go and sleep with her. Never see all three of them again. Get as far away from that s**t show as possible.

StonkPhilia −  NTA your friend knew about the cheating and kept quiet, which is considered a betrayal. I get that her mom’s past might’ve influenced her, but she still should’ve told you. You’re allowed to cut someone off when they hurt you like that.

ReaRipple −  NTA. It’s a tough spot, but your friend should have had your back, not kept you in the dark. Being in a difficult situation doesn’t give someone a free pass to betray trust. You have every right to feel hurt and to want distance to heal.

eratoesben −  NTA – protect your peace and move forward with those who are truly there for you. You don’t owe anyone anything especially not when she was more interested in protecting her own bubble of peace. While escaping from her own trauma she attributed to yours.. Be selfish, she was.

lychigo −  Excuse me, your other friends don’t think it’s a big deal that she hid that her mom was banging your bf? What?

Nikolopolis −  but my friend’s think I am punishing her for no fault of her own and also that its understandable what her mom did.. These people are NOT your friends.

Xx_Ruby_X −  No, you’re not the a**hole. Your friend chose to enable her mom’s behavior and kept a major betrayal from you. You have every right to cut her off, especially after such a betrayal.

Sensitive-Ad-5406 −  Find new friends.